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what does my ex bf want from me?
17/f and he's 17/m. i broke up with my first bf cause i really felt nothing for the 4 months we've dated. it was mostly lust. i felt no love. it was more of a status thing. i did like him though. thus, i didnt feel bad when i broke it off.
well, first, he acted all cool like..whatever, man. i could get 10 chicks better than you in a day. so i'm like..ehh who cares..?
and so now...he's beginning to act like a begging dog. he stares at me with these puppy eyes..and gives me looks and weird gestures..and when he hugs me..he hugs me unusually tight and touches me like when we were in a relationship...its not a friendly hug. which is exactly what we are right now. friends. yet he doesnt understand this...
well, today..he told me that im perfect..and asked me to reconsider my decision..i didnt say anything. and then he told me to tell him whether or not i love him anymore.
honestly, i don't know what to do about him. i like him...but i wouldn't wanna go back. how do i let him down easily? cause i'm not too sure he's being serious either.
thank you!
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Don't try to 'let someone down easy'. It NEVER works. It only makes them confused, hopeful and annoying as all hell.
When you need to let someone down, do it directly and clearly.
Tell him this: "You are my friend. I still care for you, but I do not want to be with you agian. I never will. I would apperciate it if this is the last time we talk about any thing more then friendship between us."
He sounds pretty damn serious, so you owe him a serious reply. He might try to pretend he was joking afterwards... but he'd just be trying to save face and all you have to do is shrug and say "Sorry, I thought you really meant it."
Don't try to make it easier. It isn't easy. Just be clear.
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Okay there are a couple of situations here.
1: He could really want you back just because he can't get another girl
OR
2:He may really love you. You can either give him another chance or to let him down you could just say no but i want to be good friends. If he still acts like your still in a relationship, then talk to him. Tell him you feel weird when he acts like that. =]]]]
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so try telling him that their are many fish in the sea and its a great big ocean :) jk how about telling him sorry be kind about it obviously but if you dont like him at all and see this relationship going anywhere tell him you want to stay friends because you werent happy in a relationship with him and you beleive that being friends is what you need to be right now and if later down the road for some reason you even consider dating him again tell him that just for now you want to stay friends and leave it at that. either you'll find someone else or he will but dont make him tag alone for a ride that you dont want him to be on because if he did that to you you would hate it so just be sincere about you wanting to stay friends and good luck...why cant we just find that right guy right away without all the little ex's :) good luck sweetie
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