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teenage love
Ohhkay. Where to start. I'm confused.My topic is: teenage love. What does everyone think of it?
Because all my friends, or a fair few, will have a boyfriend who they keep for a week or a month or two and they'll be from day one, "head over heels in love". Now, I for one think that's ridiculous! They're 15/16 year olds and, in particular examples, they'll have a week or two, maybe a month of I love You after they met about 2 days previously - or online or something, and then it stops.
I for one think that love can't be anything more than infatuation, but I think this has become the image of teenage love.
Now I started going out with my boyfriend 11 months ago and I knew I didn't love him at the start. It was like a 15 year old crush on both parts. I didn't admit to myself I loved him until about 5 months had passed. And even then I didn't say it verbally. Now, at 11 months I feel like I can talk about it freely with him and we've never been closer; I really can't see the end right now, even though everything inevitably ends.
But my parents seem to think that it won't last and I'm being ridiculous, wanting to see him so much. They say it won't last, although compared to my friends, me and my boyfriend are practically an old aged married couple - they say its ridiculous that tennagers can possibly even contemplate the meaning of the word 'love'. They also say that what I have is hardly a commitment or any kind of dedication even though I feel completely commited , which I will admit came with time (about a month or two, even more so now).
I just want to know - is this true? Have you ever experienced or seen 'teen love' do anything but crash and burn compared to the relationships people have when slightly older? Do you think that for some people, like me, it could last? Or is it, in your opinion also, likely to end and be forgotten about? Do you think there is more of a sense of commitment when you're more mature or an equal amount?
Thankyou! Your feedback is
VERY MUCH appreciated
Faye.
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Everyone has to learn to love.
When you're young, you have short relationships. You learn what it is to feel things for people. Over time, the ability to feel and recognize those emotions matures and grows.
The level to which someone can love someone else at 15 doesnt compare to 5 years later, 10 years later. Its a shallow love. "Youre interested in me and I'm interested in you and it feels good" kind of thing. Later in life theres more commitment and feeling behind that.
Your parents are right to a degree. Rarely does teenaged love last. Why?
Because people change. You fall in love with someone, and a few years later they are a different person. And without alot of maturity its difficult to grow with your partner's changes. Adults are more formed. When you are in your 20s, you are more of who you will be for the rest of your life (infinitely more) than you are at 15-16.
Are they completely right? Can you make it work? Sure you can. Will you both want to forever? I cant say. That could change on either side.
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