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i am so mad at my ex because he did so much crap to me and he was my very best friend. when we broke up i lost a part of myself. im leaving soon so i wont see him again at least until i visit in a few months and he wont talk to me. hes avoiding me because he doesnt want to deal with the emotions he has. i just want to talk about a couple things and get closure but he wont. he refuses. i have tried many times. i cannot let go of my anger and sadness and its making me depressed literally. i never feel just happy now and i hate it. i am a different person and the person i was before left with his and i's relationship. once i move i will become another person but right now all i am is depressed. how can i let go of the anger i have and move on? and i have suckish "friends" that i really cant stand so they dont help AT ALL. they make things worse. i only have a couple friends i really love and care about. they try to help but no one understands how hurt and crushed i feel. they have never felt it before. he had a part of ME and now its gone. and i feel like i cant forgive him for that. i feel like he destroyed me. please help
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Right what you want to tell him down, tomorrow read it again and either destroy it, or mail it to him, either way you have said your piece. Do not question if he read it, he read it.
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I've been exactly where you are. Only difference is I couldn't move away, and she made me out to be a monster when she was the one who abused the relationship.
You have a right to be angry if he did put you through such crap and was that close to you. It's natural. Let it pass through and take its course.
Once you have done that, you have to decide: Is this guy going to be a turning point in your life, or a footnote?
Next part of my advice is optional. IF you truly need to, go straight up to him, tell him how you feel. Even if he isn't affected by what you say, it'll only mean he didn't deserve you in the first place, especially if he can't be decent enough to provide you with closure.
Best thing to do to be just happy again is something you love to do from before you met him. Even if you have to fingerpaint like you might have done in preschool, do it. Just revel in it.
The last thing I can tell you is this: Yes, you have been beaten to the ground emotionally. You want to just curl up and die.
But the truly great people, the ones that are admirable, just, and good, never stay down. It's about how much you can take, and still push forward towards what you want.
Now stand up, and push forward.
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