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evil step mom?
ok so im 15 i have three more years until im leagal to move out of my dads house heres the deal. my step mom and my dad has always told me that my mom left me because she didn't want me but i still see her twice a week and every other weekend. then my mom tells me that she couldn't have taken me because she had to work 12 hour shifts at night when i was little. which is true. and she wanted full custadey of me once and my dad told me that she dropped it when she really never did. and this time in my life i really want to live with my mom. but she lives out of the school district to bring me to school and its not possible what ever and i would feel bad for her to move in something she cant afford so i can be happy for three years. the thing is i love my dad hes great sometimes. some things he says i don't beleive in but who does. but when hes around my step mom who's being a total bitch to me for some reason hes always taking her side. never sticking up for me and she refers me and my siblings as "them" or "the kids" thats so annoying its like we have names. she will make you feel guilty everyday i hear this i clean i cook for you and sometimes buy stuff for you. i don't care. ya i respect her but now shes being to much. the other day i left a wet towel on the WOODEN FLOOR! OMG! i was in a hurry i was going to pick it up when i got home but she took it away so ya i don't have a towel to dry in now. because thats gonna teach me a lesson or something. she talked to me about it i said sorry not in an attitude way and she said well you better shape up!! grrr! and shes been ignoring me and what not and all i said last night if i can go to this dumb talent show and maybe have a friend over so i can bring her she started snapping at me like is she gonna eat here i said i would think so if shes coming rite after school. and then i walk away she talks to my dad probally saying how ungrateful i am and says that its to hectic here with five other kids blah blah i don't want to pretend who i am rite now basically is what she said. ok fine i don't care. say that then being snappy about it. then i come home today in my room and my sisters (we share) and all my hair products are gone she took them off the shelf and put it in the bathroom theres no room in the bathroom for all of it. my thing is why does she go through only MY stuff not my sisters. what the fuck!!!! and shes not home yet but i bet for some reason i wont be able to do something tonight because that pissed her off. its been like that for 2 years now how is it any different from the pervious years. im so close to saying see ya to my dad because im not taking this any more and ya my dad will disown me he wont want to talk to me ever agian because his wife will be to uspet and say how can she do that for all i given her shes an ungrateful child.! she always makes me feel guilty and always critisizes my friends and thats why none of them want to come over. and of course the normal step mom thing she cares more over her kids then she does us in any day and shell stick up for them but my dad will never stick up for us or hell try sometimes but he never wins becuase he gives up. i bet. I HATE IT HERE I WANT TO LIVE WITH MY MOM!!! please tell me if theres any way in the state of NEW YORK that i could have my way with my mom live with her and still go to the same school i am now with out her having to move. or tell me if im being the bitch here and need to grow up? tell me like it is i dont care how harsh i lived through that for years and i can take any thing that needs to be said.
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Wow! Where does one start? I have seen this many times, lived a version of it myself. Let's start with your sister, the reason she doesn't get any of this is, you are in the way. Now tell me, would it be better if she got it all, because that is what will happen if you leave.
I will tell you what is going on, but I expect you to understand and not use this information as a weapon against your stepmother. Believe it or not, she sees you as a competitor for her man, (your father), I know, it's warped, but you are the other women. You want to fix this, try to keep from pitting him against her, it may or may not work. See she sees that you trying to take him away from her.
Now, as to your dad and I'm going to be blunt here, please excuse me for doing so. He is more concerned about having a regular sexual partner and losing her then he is about defending his daughter. You don't understand how important that is to some men. It is a poor excuse, but non-the-less.
In divorce, generally speaking, each parent will try to make themselves look the angel and the other look the devil. Like in real life you must take what is said as a grain of salt and find out the truths for yourself, for so many people have their own truths and often they are not based in fact.
I wonder how much you look like your mother, because that can be a big factor here.
I can not tell you the law in your state, but you have the tool in front of you to find out what rights you have at 15, but you must remember the roll you play in this. Is your sister strong enough to take the kind of crap you do? Do you really want to abandon her to take your fate?
Find a way to fix this, stop thinking so narrow, living with your mother is not your only option, use the brains you were given, you are not too young that you can't figure out how to change this.
Hope it all works out,
A kindred spirit
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u seem like a cool person. well, i noe completely how you feel right now because im sorta in the same situation. my fake stepfahter(hes not married to my mom but he calls himself my father)i think hes such a bad father, he used to torture me by making me wake up every morning at 5:45 or 6:00 just to go jogging. and then itsz really bad because itsz school and i dont get enough sleep. not only that but he says itsz good 4 me. hells no! and also hes gonna call me stupid and tell my mom how crazy i am and all of that. and he still does that! he says ill appreciate the jogging when i grow up! he acts like im a little kid, no im not! so i noe how you feel. itsz terrible. you didnt do anything wrong. i feel so bad for you and it makes me mad that your stepmom has to do that to you. just by reading this i hate her gutsz already.also your dad...he should done something about it, seriously. sorry i dont really know any way you can move in with your stepmom. i wish i did so i can help you out but i dont. sorry. but either way i really hope i helped. ur stepmoms just terrible itsz not you at all.
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