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plz help sticky situation at school
okk. so. i was friends with these two girls. lets call them M and J. J said some really bitchy things about my other friend. we'll call her A. we'll A got really upset, so i simply said to J that i thought what she said was totally uncalled for. and then she gets all pissy and mad at me. then M gets all mad at me. so i email her, and apoligize for whatever i did. then M emails me back and she says that she thinks i've changed alot. she said that she missed the old me who gossiped and care about what social standing her friends were at. i told her that i thought that i changed for the better. then she said that it might be better if we were not friends. so i said fine and i cut off contact with them and sat with my other friends at lunch. and it should've stopped there. but it didnt. they constantly talk about me. all the time. they said that i talk shit about them and that i'm a bitch. i cant take it anymore. i had a breakdown the other day. i was bawling. its just so hard when you have a whole group of ppl out to make ur life hell. i cant ignore it. everyone says that i should just ignore them and they'll leave me alone. well they dont care if i ignore them or not, they still do it. M and J ran by my house yesterday laughing and screaming to get me to hear them. they write mean notes about me. they talk about me in the halls. what the hell can i do to make them stop?? i swear i'm at the end of my rope. i really need help. please.
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WELL lets see, First we know that M and J started all this because they could speak their minds about A. SO it was really about A and not you until you stuck up for A instead of M and J. M and J were going to dislike A. anyways so you made the better choice to stay with A. as a friend. M and J are just jelious that you would pick her over them and trying to get back at you. You have mind of your own and seem compasionate about others feelings were M and J don't. Im most eyes you were better off breaking the friendships with M and J because they are a bad influence. I you show them at all that their nonsense bothers you it will continue. You have to be strong and show them you are the better person. It will pass in time, but not if you give into them. It will only feed them and want more. If you start telling teachers and things it will only get worse. you need to find a new group of friends and only report it if it becomes violent and start hitting you. You have to bore them to death so they move on to a bigger and better target. This is the nature of some people so don't think for a second that it will stop or get better. ONLY IF YOU GIVE IN TO THEIR WAYS.. If you do this you have belittled yourself and your own social standing that you worked so hard to get. A new group of friends will controll this and the gossip group will move on to the next best story. To them you are still on the front page of the paper. Hope this helps
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it sounds like totally pathetic, but really it's more about your maturity level. clearly you have risen above and not stooped down to their level, congrats to you really. but i think that since they are harassing you at school, you should seriously consider getting some sort of parental help. or ask the guidance counselor for advice. if those girls got yelled at by an elder maybe they'd stop, or tease you more. they are just pathetic, and i think jealous of the fact that you're being the true you, and don't care what people think. so don't think it's 'cause they don't like you, they really idolize you dear.
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