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confidence
im 17f and asian-american and starting a few years ago, i have been having trouble w/ confidence. for instense- when i'd be at the mall or something and saw people walking in my direction i would look the other direction or stare at the ground until we passed. i always think that people are thinking or saying bad things about me. yes, people have put me down, but people have also complimented me twice as much. im sure everyone has experience this though, but insults seem to weigh more heavily so i guess thats part of the problem of worrying so much about what others think of me. i understand that people have their own opinions, but its just confusing.
up until now i have been trying to overcome this but i still can't help but think that people are talking bad about me. i care alot about appearance and how i present myself, i know that looks arent everything, but they are something. i always find myself trying compare myself to girls around me, and thats not good. dont get me wrong though, im not the type of person to be a *itch and put others down to make myself feel better.. thats really low and i know how bad that feels.
it seems that my confidence on the weekends and outside of school is really good. i feel comfortable and i make friends easily. but while i'm at school my confidence drops.. i have one best friend and its harder to make friends b/c everyone is already in their groups. i go to a very small school that isnt at all racially diverse. im one of saayyy 6 or 7 asians, and i guess i just feel out of place.
any adivce on how to be less paranoid and more confident?
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Ok first of all stop caring what others are thinking. Because if they are ur friends they already like u for u. I used to have confidence problems but not anymore. The cause is because to look at people is a lot more comfortable than looking at your shoes that's how I did it. When I would get nervous i'd think nose over toes and shoulders back because this gives you an air of confidence and smile a little people will come over and talk to you. Especially in a school that is not racially diverse.
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