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End of a friendship, but what about show tickets?
Okay, so tonight I ended a friendship with someone very close to me. I'm crying as I write this.
I'm trying to stay calm, and I'm not going skitzo and trying to get revenge. I'm just trying to accept it, these things are a part of life.
Before I ask my question, please don't say something like "you'll be friends again soon probably" we won't.
We're fighting about religion, and have been for a while. Our friendship has been on the rocks for a while, and this was declared the end.
Basically without going into depth, I'm not allowed to think negative thoughts about a religion she's not even a part in or knows anything about. She told me to stop talking about it and I did, and then she finds out I was still thinking negative about it, and then went crazy at me.
Anyway, the question.
About 5 months ago she bought us tickets to go see a show. The show is in June so there's still 2 months to go. She, obviously has my ticket. I'm not really fussed about actually going, I'm going to another date because I knew something like this would happen, so I quickly bought tickets to another date. All I want is my money.
So I was thinking of getting one of her friends to go instead, and give me the money, but her friends are just as angry as her over it.
Now I know deep down she's a good person, no matter how mad I am at her I still think that, and she wouldn't not give me my money just to be bitchy. But the only thing is, where I live you can't send money in the post because letters are always being intercepted.
And she'll have that whole 'I never wanna see you again' thing going on. We never cross paths, so it's not like if I ever bump into her she can just give me the money and we be on our merry way. We'd actually have to meet up.
So how could she give me the money?
I won't be asking for a few days, because it may seem rude and they may be a small shimmer of hope of saving the friendship. I don't think it's worth saving, if she's going to be controlling like this. But who knows.
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You could always ask her to send you the ticket, and then you could sell it to someone.
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Leave it a few weeks.
I have to tell you the truth, I have people out there is this world who owe me $60 to $200 that I will never ask for the money back.
I will either not ask because I consider them friends, and have accepted the money was a gift OR because they are no longer my friends and the money is a small price to pay for not having to speak to them.
I would strongly suggest, you let the ticket be water under the bridge. In your own mind, gift it to her, to do with she pleases. That is my advice to you.
If you really want too, at least wait a week or two and send her a brief message asking her to sell the ticket on your behalf and either put the buyer in contact with you to give you the money, or to leave the money with an agreed apon third party. Even asking her to drop it off at your house and plan on not being there when she does is fine.
The most important thing is not get drawn into a pointless argument or drama. Ask once, offer a solution for dropping it off, and then let it go.
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