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ok so my friend and i made plans to go to this concert we already have the tickets and its this friday... we dont have a ride back and my brother is having a party and its kinda like my birthday party to. so many of my friends are going to it including my boyfriend and i barely ever get to see him.. well the party and the concert are on the same night, the concert i think is going to be so stupid and its just like garage bands except for just surrender but i dont really like them that much anyways well my friend is super excited about going to this concert but i would much rather go hang out with my boyfriend who i hardly ever see besides in school and party... i told my friend i dont think i could go, i mean we dont even have a ride back and stuff and she freaked out saying how much stress i was putting on her but like.. i dont see whats so stressful about it and that i shouldnt blow her off to go party and that she will never talk to me again if i dont go with her and shes going to call the cops? yeah thats what she said ha. i dont want to blow her off and make her upset but i really want to go to my party and i thought i was being nice and i told her that ill give her my ticket that i paid for and she could bring someone else that actually would want to go but apparently that meant to her i was being rude and only thinking of myself? im so stuck if other people were in my situation what would you do? go to a party with all your friends or go to a concert that your going to have a horrible time at to make your friend happy?
if i go to the concert all my friends and boyfriend will be stuck at my house alone with my brother and his friends..
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well you should explain to her that you didn't know beforehand that this party was going to happen. tell her that the party is for you and you would really like to go to it--- since it is for you. haha. invite her to come too. tell her you will have way more fun with all of your friends together instead of just going to a concert, you don't even have a ride back anyways. just try to sell your tickets to someone else. if she is a good friend she will understand.
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You are being a bit rude hun, since you already agreed to plans with her.
It's best you admit that, and apologize.
Of course, you are free to do whatever you want. Sure, I'd prefer going to the party as well! but that doesn't mean you don't owe your friend an apology if you aren't going with her to the concert. That would be breaking your plans with her, and you'd be mad in her place too. She's allowed to be mad.
So apologize, be kind to her, and then do whatever you choose to do. Just know that you aren't being all that nice to her, and maybe she will never forgive you... Meh, that is just the choice you are free to make, and something you'll need to live with. Sounds like she isn't really someone you want to be hanging out with anyways.
'Cause nothing you say is going to make her happy about the fact you are ditching her.
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It seems a bit to me that she's trying to emotionally blackmail you. I don't think you should let yourself be affected. She's telling you about how you blew her off. But if you think she's blowing off YOUR birthday party where she knows your boyfriend you don't get to see to often isn't going to be there. If it was my friend I'd understand that she wanted to see go to a birthday party. It's not any old party. And its not like you like the people playing anyways or that you have a ride back. I say go to the party but help your friend find someone else to go with her. If you want to be the peacemaker though. Maybe you could go to half the concert and then leave early for the party.
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