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honestly is this slutty?
is it wrong to touch a guy's pants in that "area" [not like a handjob because there were clothes on] after knowing him for a few weeks? i kissed him a few weeks ago and then this happened yesterday.
honestly do you think its slutty? and if it is how can i kind of put the sexual stuff on hold an just focus on getting to know him better?
thanx
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I think you know if it's slutty or not and you really need to reach inside of yourself to discover this.
Obviously, it feels very wrong to be doing this or you wouldn't have been concerned about being perceived as a slut. From here, you should take the time to decide if you want to do the right thing and discontinue this activity or if you want to disregard your gut feelings and pretend it is acceptable behavior.
It is a fact that when people feel slutty/dirty/whorish they reach out to people they feel will accept their actions and tell them that they are not doing anything wrong. The fact that you are questioning this tells a lot and I hope you do understand that. I also want to note that just because someone here claims it is not slutty behavior does not make it alright--YOU know what is really going on. To put it simply, your conscience is screaming at you.
I also want to note that you include the phrase "getting to know him better" which implies that you obviously are aware of your lack of personal communication between said boy and yourself. Yes, you always should just simply focus on getting to know a prospective mate before engaging in sexual interaction. You obviously have been jumping into some things you are not well-prepared for and your conscience knows it.
When you interact sexually with a person without getting to know them at all then it does put a stigma on you. The person will perceive you as sexual and empty. They see that you will make them feel good physically but have nothing else to really offer them. Most, if not all, of these sort of relationships burn out quickly.
You may need to clearly express this problem to your partner. Let him know that you know it is wrong that you have been touching his genital area and are going to discontinue so that you two can work on the emotional and mental parts of the relationship before the physical part. If your partner disagrees, pressures you to continue sexual contact, or simply gets upset then be aware that he is only in the relationship you two share for sexual gratification.
So, yes, it is slutty behavior. Yes, you should work on getting to know the guy better. Yes, you should start listening to your conscience and following what you KNOW is right and not what the media and your peers try to feed you. Yes, if you are questioning your actions then they are, most likely, very wrong and you should discontinue them.
I hope you do what is clearly appropriate for you and take steps to work on yourself and the right parts of your relationship with your partner.
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Well it really depends on the message you depict with the touch. If you did it seductively and came off like oh my gosh I want you, then yes I think that is kind of slutty, but if you just slipped you know and didn't mean it that way thne no.
Don't put yourself in situation where you are alone and have a chance to do things sexual. Attempt to stay with a group so you can just talk and get to know one another. Text, phone, and just make conversation.
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No, its not slutty. It slipped.
He should be okay with waiting and all that. If not, break it off with that guy because then he might be using you.
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no it is not slutty.
but remenber use protection dont reck you life
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