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Should I stay or should I go?
16/f/CT, USA
Summary of the story: James is 17/m. He's from South Carolina. He moved up to CT in January. He is possibly moving back to SC in July. He and I have become very close. He is very sexually experienced. He has had sex with 6 girls. We like each other but as of now we are just friends with benefits. I'm his 7th. We've had sex twice. Ive only had sex with one other person and that was 2 years ago and I regretted it because it was against my moral and religious beliefs. But with James, I just can't seem to say no. He's just so good at it.
Dilemma: I'm afraid to just end things with him. I don't want to lose out on a good friend. But then again I feel as if our relationship has become based on sex. I've talked to him about it and he said that he cares about me a lot and that sex is just a bonus.
Should I remain friends with benefits with him? Like continuing sex (because its fun for both of us) untill he leaves?
Or drop it?
My life was so boring before he came into it.
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If you like him and you want to continue this, you will get hurt because he will be leaving. But I wouldn't say your relationship is based on sex. 2 times is nothing close to that. He may say he likes you a lot, but that doesn't change the fact he's leaving. You both have to face that eventually. You can continue it, but you have to be willing to let him go when he does leave. Hope that answered your question. Have fun... lol
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I wouldn't really consider your relationship as "based on sex" if you've only had sex with him twice, but if you are doing other "stuff" with him, then I understand.
If there are feelings involved (like you actually started liking him), then I'd say drop it because you'll get hurt in the end. If the thought of him leaving makes you sad, then that's an indicator that you should probably stop. But if you know you'll be fine when he leaves, then I guess you can continue it.
In my opinion, you should still talk to him and be friends, but leave out the benefits part.
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