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Real Friends or Not?
Ok, before I start, I'm almost 14 and I'm female.
Well, lately, I've gotten into a lot of fights with some of my friends. They keep saying they're gonna change, but the same stuff starts all over again (ex. Swearing, Negativity, Talking about People, etc.). Earlier this week, someone called me a liar for telling this one guy the truth about him, and both of them don't believe me. I also found out one of the girls who was supposed to be my best friend talked about me behind my back. My closest friend keeps telling me she'll get over her crush who's treated her friends kinda badly, but she just goes back to liking him again. The guy who called me a liar also told her that I was a bad friend who said bad things about her, but I would NEVER do that 'cause she's been an amazing friend to me. I'm at the point where I'm usually by myself and get called a "loner" 'cause I don't want to be around those people. I don't know what to do! I'd really appreciate the help!
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The answer to all this is very simple. You are mis-using the term Friend. Which is very common. What you need to do is examine your own beliefs on how a Friend is supposed to act. When you do this you will discover you are surrounded by associates rather than Friends. Be more choosy about who you count as a Friend, not every one is worthy.
True Friends are like Diamonds,
Precious but rare.
False friends are like Autumn leaves,
Found everywhere.
Be more selective when choosing who you allow into your life. Take Care and Good Luck.
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Well, even you can see that they have maturing to do. if you can, you should talk with them and try to fix things. However, if their actions are so repetitive, it's good to step back. If you're really sick of all of this, you shouldn't be afraid to be a loner. Good friends are ones that can be trusted. If it's not that way, then it's almost better to be alone.
Anyway, it would be refreshing for you to find new friends.
These things take time, because people change over time.. And it takes time to make new friends. So be patient, and keep trying your best to avoid their negativity (or even avoid them altogether). Don't let these old "friends" govern your social life and make you frustrated.
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okay everyone gonna talk about someone behind their back but if its a rumor your friends are either having problems with their lives or they arent your real friends and a lot of people do change when they go to high school. make some new friends. and also you friends crush leave that be that her live and if she wants a bad ass boy who treats her like shit then let her be
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Well about your freinds swearing and ect. everyone goes through i stage like that if you can support them trying to help them quit....you cant help who you likeno matter how much you try. This stuff that is bothering you try to talk to them about it. Oh and everyone fights.............when you dont fight your ussaly not always telling the truth I mean fights ussaly start over somthing you siad that they dont like
I hope I helped some
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Its time to talk to them and get everthing off the table. If at then they are still the same its time for you to find other friends. Find ppl the like you for you not for the changes you make as a person
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