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constant Myspace arguments
Ok, so on myspace, a lot of times people post incredibly stupid bulletins, and they think they know everything for doing so. I know I don't know everything. Now I don't want to message them about it, because usually, i'm talking to everyone. It seems as though no matter what I post as a bulletin, people STILL get really pissed at me for voicing my opinion. Like, I saw a bulletin that said something along the lines of "Be a vegan PETA is the best!" ((now, I agree with some of peta's points, but most of their ways of "awaring" the public are pretty extreme)) So, this bulletin makes me remember a video or article I've read. I go and look it up and post a simple bulletin that states "Wow, some of this stuff is pretty extreme, but they have some good points" and I post the video, in which the director tells the good parts and bad parts of PETA. All of a sudden I get some message that reads "You stupid dumb bitch you don't know what your talking about".I don't get it, why can THEY voice their opinion, but whenever I do, they lash out at me??? I try not to do this to every bulletin, in fact, I only do it to the ones that are pretty false. I try not to sound harsh about my opinions, because I just want to speak my opinion, not start a fight. Why does this keep happening? Should I just stop trying to voice my opinion all together? I know it's just the internet, but I just don't get it. Thanks...it probably didn't need to be this long, sorry...
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There's nothing wrong with voicing your opinion. And if your opinion differs from someone else's, it can be fun to have a friendly debate about it. But if you want to keep things civil and avoid hard feelings, you have to be careful with the timing and the way you say things. And there really are times when it's best to keep your opinion to yourself.
For instance... let's say you post a bulletin saying, "I love country music!" And then someone immediately posts one saying "Country music stinks!" Well, of course they're entitled to their opinion. And if they'd just randomly said that out of the blue, it'd be no big deal. But since it seems to be a response to your bulletin, it might come across like they're publicly dissing your musical taste or trying to insult you... and you might be a little hurt of offended.
The truth is, no one likes to be told they're wrong... especially in public. If someone says something you disagree with, 9 times out of 10 it's probably best to just let it slide. If it's something you really feel strongly about, and you just can't resist giving your opinion on the matter, do it privately, so the person isn't embarrassed. But even then, think carefully about your motives, and what you're trying to accomplish. If there's no good reason behind it, you'll just come across as being arguementative.
It sounds like you really enjoy giving your opinion, especially if it differs from someone else's. You might like joining a debate team! And you'd probably be a great trial lawyer!
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You should either stop trying to voice your opinions OR accept that some people will never want to hear an opinion even the slightest bit different from thier own.
Lets be honest: Myspace is not the forum for intellgent debates. It really isn't. I don't know how long you've been around Advicenators either, but I've seen some pretty nasty behavoir here when something is posted that another person really disagrees with. Imature jerks exist everywhere you go, at every age and demographic. There is no escaping them.
A person who starts calling you names after you voice your opinion is not trying to start a debate or discussion with you. They are wanking. They are making themselves feel better and choosing to live in ignorance and behave disrespectfully. There is no reason to respond to them. There is nothing even to say to that.
In your position, I would simply accept that as the way of the universe and continue to voice my opinions in the most respectful way possible. (It wouldn't be a bad idea to carefully re-read your posts and make very certain that you are being fair and not stating opinion as fact). Behavoir that is not respectful to you, simply ignore.
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