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Hi, I am a boy who likes a girl he knows. The problem is that I have only started to hang with the group of her friends recently. I'm not sure if she likes me back or if I am getting mixed messages. I am afraid that if I ask her out and she doesn't feel the same way, that she will be creeped out and not talk to me or even be my friend. What should I do?
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Well, this is a tough situation =/
I'd talk to your friend who also likes her. Ask him if he'd be alright with you asking her out, or if it would cause too much tension in your relationship with him, etc. I would DEFINETELY talk to your friend before letting this girl know how you feel or doing anything along those lines.
After you've talked to your friend, what to do next depends on his answer:
Worst case scenario:
He says something like, "I would hate you if you asked this girl out and we'd never be friends again because of it!"
- Ok, so maybe he didn't say anything THAT awful, but you get what I'm saying. If your close friend wouldn't be comfortable with you asking this girl out, I wouldn't do it. How close are you with this friend? Are you willing to risk your friendship with him for a girl you both like? Think about these things, and decide which means more to you.
Best case scenario:
He says something like, "You should totally go for it! I'm sure she likes you!"
- Or something like that. If he's alright with you asking this girl out, go for it! Like I always say, life is WAY too short NOT to take chances, and just sit around wondering what could've been, should've been, and would've been.
OR Option Number 3 (maybe we'll call it Plan B?):
- Tell your friend you like this girl, but make a pact with him that neither of you will ask her out. This will not only keep your friendship strong, but neither of you will have to face (possible) rejection or her choosing one of you over the other. This is what I would do personally, but talk to your friend about it, and see what you can BOTH agree on.
I hope this helps,
and let me know how everything goes! =]
-Laura. (15-f)
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