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Choose what is best for me in the future.
I am very lost in life right now. I don't know what to do. I have a ex-girlfriend that is pregnant with my second kid and I don't love her. I have been dating another girl for a month now that is 30 years old (shes about 6 years older than me) and I really started to fall for her really bad. But I haven't been honest with her. I've kept that I have kids from her and that I don't have a car right now. So last night I couldn't make it to her house, so she doesn't want to talk to me anymore. I need help.
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If you expect your 'relationship' with this women to go anywhere at all, you better fess up right now about your fatherhood.
A man who lied to me about being a parent, is not a man I would ever consent to date agian. So if you care about her, be honest with her and beg for her forgiveness.
Stressful things like that don't get solved until you face them head on.
Also, just don't sleep with your ex anymore. Obviously neither of you are capable of being responsible with your reproductivity.
If you can decide to do those two things, you will start to feel a bit less overwhelmed.
Personally, I wouldn't join the US Army right now for a million dollars, espcailly not if I had a rewarding career I was happy with already. But that is just me and that is just a decision you must make for yourself and be strong enough to face your family about.
Very few people really know what they want to do with thier lives. They stumble through, fuck up, make mistakes and get stressed out. The trick, as far as I can tell, is to fuck up less and to be responsible and honest to those around you.
Don't look at your problem as "OMFG I DON"T KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH MY LIFE!" look at them with "Okay, how can I be responsible, honest and happiest in this situation." and do that.
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dude if you love her you have to tell her, its not fair to her to lie about important things like having kids. if she cares for you as much a you do for her im sure she would accept it. the truth, however damaging, is always better than a lie.
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