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inlove with a married man
ive known this guy for 2 1/2 years and when we met it was attraction on the spot. spent hours talking and in constant admiration for each other. well, i was in a horrible ending relationship that i couldnt get out of and me and my new found love fell our seperate ways. in that time he married the mother of his child because of the void he was feeling and just to be closer to his child. well destiny placed us back together in another country together for a year and we fell back into each others arms but, now the problem is not two non-married love birds but he is maried and we stil have the same admiration for each other, in life i know you dont choose who you love, is chooses you than, what is a woman to do in this situation?
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Although it is true you can't choose your feelings you CAN choose your actions.
You can choose not to cheat. Period.
It might not be an easy choice, or what you want to do, but you can choose it and you should. Cheating with this man would be dishonest, destructive, and in the long-term not likely add to either of your happiness. (The percentage of lasting second marriages when the first marriage ended with the new partners cheating with one another: %5.)
Be the mature adult and don’t give in the ‘I wannas!’ and respectfully put your feelings on the backburner until he decides if he wants his marriage to continue or not. If, and when, he makes a clean break from his wife, then you can start exploring your feelings, NOT before.
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The moral thing. A relationship is not a pair of shoes that you wish you had bought and appear to be on sale again. People often feel more for a lost love than reality because reality comes with stretchmarks, gas, bills and crying kids. An affair is wrong, stay away. You are at least in a position of meeting the new available love of your life, maybe he is waiting, if you had ended up with this guy, you might be on the receiving end of this lost love against his baby mama, now wife.
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