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I Feel Like Im Stupid.
Ok im in 7th grade (13/f) and i cant do fractions. i mean like 4th grade stuff. and iv told my math teacher and he makes no attempt to help. well now im in Gate way to Tech. and i thought it would be about..well tech. and it ends up being about fractions and measurement.(and i cant do that) and he keeps trying to make me get the point. but all hes doing is makeing me feel stupid cause he says the stuff in front of my friends, when he knows i dont get it. then today in class he was trying again and this time i broke. i started tearing up and he just kept going. and by then like everyone in class was looking. and my friends were like are you ok and he was like she needs to learn this. and then when he was done. i was like almost sobbing. but the tears were just rolling. and i was like can i go to the bathroom. and he let me. but this teacher doesnt get it. he doesnt know my past with learning. he doesnt get that i can only push myself so far. then my english teacher say i was crying and was like you need to get this math down blah blah blah. so she was going to call my mom and tell her about it when its not her concern. when i push myself too far i get panic attacks. like 3-7 a day. and i just got over that.
so please help. what do i do?
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You're teacher obviously needs a reality check and a smack in the face. He is suppose to be HELPING you, not making you feel stupid. Try enlisting help from someone else. Maybe a teacher that you feel comfortable with? It doesn't have to be another math teacher. Some teachers are glad to help even if it is not their subject. Check and see if there are any math help programs in your school and attend those sessions, if not see if you can get a tutor.
I've seen/am friends with students that are like you and they all share the same frustration and teachers today forget that it is our parents tax money that gives them a paycheck so they need to get their attitudes and shove it out the door. Talk to your parents about it. In the meantime, just do your best, thats all that can be done. Ask some friends for help.
Don't be ashamed. I have problems with fractions too, their scary! Lol.
Good luck.
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You need extra help.
Because, no matter how bad your teachers approach is, he is right, you do NEED to learn that. Basic fractions are very important. So is passing classes.
Telling yourself over and over again that you CAN'T do something, is a good way to help out a panic attack. You start thinking the same horrible thoughts over and over again, you get stuck and you panic. I did it to myself for years. Sometimes I still do.
Part of what you need to do, is start telling yourself that you can do it, you just need to go slowly.
Get a tutor, an older student, or a different math teacher, to start going over the basics with you. Devote yourself to pushing yourself a bit, because if you don't you'll just stay paralyzed by fears and 'I Can't!' thoughts.
If you keep saying ‘I can’t!’ or ‘It’s too hard!’ or ‘I’m going to panic!’ then you wont get it, it will be too hard, and you will panic.
When people, like your math teacher and English teachers see that you don’t want to work at it, and that you are stuck in ‘I can’t’s they get upset and angry with you. That might not be fair or nice of them, but a lot of people, like professors and bosses might not be nice or fair either. That will be what happens in the universe if you can’t find ways to deal with your anxiety and negative thoughts. Nobody likes a quitter, and that is what you look like when you say ‘I can’t!’. What you need to say is ‘I can do this! I just don’t understand yet. Please help me.’ And you need to say it calmly. If one teacher doesn’t listen, go find another who will.
I know it’s hard. I know sometimes you’ll fail and panic anyways, but if you don’t try, you’ll never get any better and you won’t just never learn fractions, you’ll also never do dozens of other things that upset or scare you. It’s no good living that way. You have to try to fix this and that means pushing yourself and looking for extra help.
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