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does he like me?
well.. i have this ex boyfriend, let's call him Jimmy. And Jimmy and I went out about 2 years ago, and we had a harsh break-up. Because ever since we broke up, he's been giving me the cold shoulder. And right now I have a current boyfriend, and out of nowhere, 2 years later, he messaged me and it said "
i know i hurt you and i didnt mean to i was just so stupid back then... i may still be dumb but i grew up i know your really mad at me and may never talk to me again you dont have to talk to if you dont want to. i made a big mistake not apologizing to you sooner and an even bigger mistake for hurting you i didnt realize it... no its not that i didnt realize it i was just stupid i was just so mad.... ever since i left you my life hasnt been the same.... i just hadnt realized you were the best thing that happened to me... i'm glad that i met you... can we jst be friends and start over again i'm so sorry" then, i forgave him, and we started talking on aim. And he couldn't tell me something, because he thought it'd be awkward.. but eventually i got him to say what he didn't want to tell me. he told me that he didn't get over me yet, and the reason why he was single for so long now, because his past 2 girlfriends didn't make it easier for him to forget me, because when he went out with them, he says that they made him realize how good of a girlfriend i was. and that he didn't really like those 2 girls. and i asked him what he's been doing for the past 2 years, he said "thinking about you..." and i promised i wouldn't tell anybody. But i felt happy when he told me that, because NOBODY had liked me for that long before. And then, i told him the truth.. and it was that he was the best boyfriend i ever had. and he said "=) i miss talking to you" and he still does that at times, but two days later.. we stopped talking, but we do at times when we aim each other. but he's also going back to giving me the cold shoulder. and so i was wondering.. does he still like me? or is he acting like this because i'm taken now? answer this please!
ps. guys are very complicated to deal with.
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This is always tricky because when 'love' gets involved in relationships, it's always complicated, but my best guess would be that yes, he does still like you. By the sound of it, even though you broke up, you seemed pretty good for each other, just remember why you broke up in the first place because it might happen again. I don't say that to discourage, I say that to be realistic. Yes, boys are very strange when it comes to relationships. What I believe your ex boyfriend is doing is self preservation. This is where, he might not want to get too close because you're in a relationship. Believe me, it hurts when you fall in love with someone you probably can't have. I've been there done that and moving on is sometimes the hardest thing to do. I suggest to give him space, don't stop talking to him but let him figure it out for himself, this may take time, but he should have a good idea of what he wants when he's ready. Just wait it out, live your life and have fun, when you're both ready, take it slowly and don't forget to REALLY communicate.
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I was in this situation a few months ago. I moved on from a guy after liking him, and admitting him. He pushed me so far away, that I just straight up got over it. He noticed the lack of communication, and how different it was to not talk to me all the time. The best thing to do in this situation is to realize that Jimmy had his chance, and that he should have taken it when he had it. I think that he still likes you, and has definitely taken time aside to think about his relationship that he had with you and how he should have valued it.
Guys are extremely complicated to deal with.
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