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worried but not worried
Ok So my bf and I had unprotected sex. I KNOW the whole "omg you shouldnt ever do that without protection" I know.. Well Im very worried of course. He used the withdrawal method and Ive read studies on precum on how it may not contain sperm depending on certain circumstances such as if hes previously masturbated or gone to the bathroom. Ive done the withdrawal method before when i was less experienced with it and found when i did it before i was very less careful. I didnt get pregnant though. im not due for my period until the end of the month so im worrying myself and maybe for nothing but how can i keep from being worried? FYI when we had sex he is like 100% sure he didnt get it in me and it was like 3 days after my period so it wasnt my most fertile time. any advice would be helpful! thanks!
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You're way too immature and ignorant to be having sex. I'm sure this answer is likely to get you mad, but someone needs to say it so it might as well be me. You say you "KNOW" the whole speech, yet you do it anyway. Either you have a death wish or you want the burden of an unexpected pregnancy. Both situations could be avoided simply by using protection or remaining abstinent. Honestly, since you seem to be so foolish, I would consider giving up sex until you've had some time to grow up.
What you THINK you "KNOW" is absolutely meaningless. This boy could have any number of STDs and could be giving them to you every time you have sex. I'm sure you "KNOW" him well enough to trust him, and I'm sure you think you love him, but if he sincerely loved you, would he be risking your life for his own selfish desires? It's not him that will be carrying a child for nine months, and it's probably not him who'd be raising the child for at least 18 years of its life.
If he truly loved you, he would encourage you to respect yourself and love yourself. Right now, despite what you might think, you neither love nor respect yourself or him. If you did, you would want to ensure long, healthy lives for both of yourselves so you could be together for as long as possible. At this rate, you and your boyfriend will split up in no time. If you can do it without getting pregnant or an STD, it'll be a miracle.
Use your brain and protect yourself. Take a step back from all your emotions and hormones and remember that you only live once. People die everyday from AIDs for non-sexual reasons. You are putting yourself at risk needlessly time and time again for sexual pleasure. It's honestly not worth of it. Think of him and yourself lying in hospitals with the HIV virus eating away at you until you're both dead...how do you think that'll make the people around you who truly love you feel?
You might be able to undo a pregnancy, which is disgusting, but you can't undo various STDs. You need to really use your head about this, I can't stress that enough. Think of your future - don't get so caught up in the moment. It won't hurt either of you to use protection. If you truly love each other and want the best for each other, you will be safe and be smart. Otherwise, both of you should keep doing what you're doing and prepare yourselves for a horrible future headed your way.
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Word of wise- Don't trust a teenage boy who says he's 100% sure "he didn't get any in you." Actually, don't trust an adult male who says that, either. Not saying that he would lie to you, but better to be safe than sorry.
So. Before sex, do you quiz him on whether or not he has previously masturbated or urinated? Yah, that doesn't do much for the whole mood thing, does it? So, you don't know, and it only takes one out of the millions.
And, you can get pregnant at ANY time, no matter what your fertility cycle is. You can get pregnant during your period.
I'm not trying to freak you out. I'm just trying to make sure you are aware.
How do you keep from being worried? You don't, really, until you know for sure. Until then, you can try to keep your mind on other things, and push it to the back of your mind.
Not only for pregnancy's sake, but for safety's sake, start using condoms. One who is responsible enough to have sex should be responsible enough to protect themselves. Condoms are the only thing you got to protect you from STDs.
Recently, it's all over the news that 1 in 4 teenage girls has an STD in the United States.
1 in 4!
You deserve to protect yourself from that. If you can't afford condoms, the health department generally hands them out free of charge. Don't be too embarrassed to ask, because there is NO shame in protecting yourself.
Ok, ok. I know, I'm lecturing. But I wouldn't if I didn't care.
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