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i still love him
well my exboyfriend and "babydaddy" came pick me up this past friday we were just gunna hang out have a few drinks well we ended up sleeping together and he has a gf ughhhh so heres my problem am i supposed to tell her what happened cause he is def not going too she has a right to know even if i dont like her i mean i would want someone to tell me so what should i do TELL her or NOT??
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I agree with soundslikepink.
Yah, you may still harbor feelings for him. That's natural- you created a child together. You are forever bonded through your baby.
BUT. He is no good for you, obviously. He's sleeping with you while girl friend is sitting at home (or whatever) innocent and unknowing. Gee. Did he do that to you? If you got back together will he do that to you? It's not a healthy relationship to have.
At this point, best relationship you can have with him is what involves your child ONLY. No going out for drinks and hanging out. It's not about you anymore, and it's not about him. It's all about baby. Trust me, I know.
Now, do you tell girl friend? No. It's not your place to say. You are also the bad guy in the situation. No since causing more problems. Maybe you think it will ease your guilty feelings? Too bad. You bought that guilt, so you own it. Sorry, but that is how it is.
Don't be taking matters into your own hands to destroy girl friend's world. Yah, she does have the right to know, but not from you. You may think you would want someone telling you, but maybe she doesn't want that.
What if he plans to stay with this girl for the rest of his life? What if you tell her, and this effects her to the point that she wants to use this situation to try to keep him from seeing his child? It's been known to happen. It's a lot more common than you think. And when it happens, the "grown ups" don't stop to think that the child is the one who's taking the fall for their mistakes.
Just let it go, forget about it, move on, and don't let it happen again. You'll be far better off.
Like said below, you need to spend your time focusing on your baby. I know how hard it is to not be free to be you and do what you want, but that's a part of having children. It's all about the child, now.
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well.. although i agree with the perosn below that you should be focusing on your child.. i believe she has a right to know. because its only fair to know what she is getting herself into with him. thats just what i believe and what i would do. in the long run she will appriate it a lot more tha she might right now..
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You need to completely change your focus and focus on your baby. I don't know how old you are, but that baby of yours deserves to have an adult mother and an adult father. If you aren't legally adults yet, the least you could do is to try and act like it. In my opinion, it sounds like you're all still acting like a bunch of children. Sleeping around with exes and getting pregnant isn't cute. It's pathetic. Whether you like it or not, your child will be heavily affected by your actions and the actions of those around you.
When you had a baby, you automatically gave up the right to put yourself first. Your baby needs to come first, and regardless of whether or not you love this guy, you need to stay focused on being a mother. Stop drinking and stop hooking up with him (or anybody else). Your child deserves a mother it can respect. Learn to respect yourself and don't let a guy, who isn't worth your time, string you along like he is. He definitely has you right where he wants you and you're playing right into his plan. Be a woman and put a stop to that now.
Don't bother telling his new GF what happened between you. Write it off as a mistake, but more importantly, learn from this mistake. Let this be the last time any guy uses you for his own sexual gratification. Move on from this a little wiser and a little stronger. Don't get caught up in all the drama. You're a mother now. You're better than this. Leave these high school antics in the past and begin to work on making a future for yourself and your baby. You'll be much happier that you did and so will your child. Think ahead and be smart.
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