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Lasting Longer...?
My question is, I know when a guys a virgin he won't last long during sex. I know that most of the time it gets longer. But I want to know if there's any cases where a guy will never learn to last longer. Is it possible for someone to stay around 1 - 3 minutes every time? I heard oral, etc, beforehand will make it last longer by my boyfriend says that it makes it shorter, and I'm confused as to how. He says it's extremely hard to 'keep it in' - (we've only had sex 4 times by the way so I am supposing it will begin to get longer in the future :)) I don't actually mind how long sex lasts, I'm happy as I am. I'm just wondering if a) foreplay makes a guy last longer, or shorter - and b) if guys can stay within about 1 - 3 minutes for most of their lives.
Also, on a slightly different subject, my boyfriend says he hates space away from me and he loves the clinginess. Every time I try and give him space he seems to want me there, but I know alot of guys hate girls being clingy. Help me out on what to think? Should I give him space no matter what he says? Or should I go for full on cling like he says he wants. At the moment I'm doing both... but I hate giving him space ;)
Regards!
F!
(thank you very much :))
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Ok, I am only going to answer the first part. Yes, I would agree that oral on a man makes him cum faster. They really, really, really like it! Ok, so here is the deal...here are some tips that my guy and I use to make the sex last long.
One thing is: Foreplay, take a bath, give eachother massages, eat food off of each other, talk dirty, kiss and make out for long periods of time(sometimes this get's them really excited too so do that one in stride) you know take some time and really massage him, all over his body and then let him do that for you. What happens is the sexual energy is flowing. So waht would normally only flow for like a total of 10 minutes will flow for like 30 min maybe even an hour. Maybe a couple hours if you add a relaxing bath and fruit.
Another thing is taking turns on each other: Let him play with you, lick your nipples, finger you, give you oral, what ever you like, maybe just talking dirty in your ear while you rub your self. When you feel like you are getting really excited and can't take much more before you will have to cum, tell him to stop and then please him, whether that be giving him a hand job, oral, what ever turns him on, maybe it's licking his nipples. Communicate though, when he says ok i can't take much more, stop and then let him please you again.
Then what you want to do is move on to the sex after this. This is the point where you want to let him stick it in. By this time you would have been engaged in a sexual swaping of energy for at least 30 min to 1 hour. Maybe even 2 or 3 if you include the stuff at the top.
Now when he is sticking it in you and it is starting to feel really good and he feels like he is getting ready to want to cum, tell him to take it out and take a breather for a couple of minutes, tell him to think about sports and stuff while he is giving it to you so he isn't focused on you for the whole time (it sounds weird, but every guy that I have talked to that last's long, thinks about sports and video games to last). If you apply these things, your sexual experiences should start to last longer. Hope this helps you out. If you have any other questions, just hit me up. Peace
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As far as the length of sex goes, it varies from guy to guy. On average, virgins tend to not last as long as someone who has sex on a regular basis, however that's not always the case.
In general, foreplay before hand lengthens the whole sexual experience, but makes the actual intercourse most likely shorter.
As long as you are happy with your boyfriend's performance the time it takes for him to finish shouldn't control how well the experience is.
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