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Why are my friends picking her over me?
I have three friends and there this girl first she calls my sister stupid Just because shes special, then she acts like shes all that when shes passing her invations, to her party then she ditches us when a new clique give her a chance to hang out with them. Then turns out that she gets in a fight with one of the girls of that clique. And wants to hang out with us again so we give her one more chance.And that clique gets jelous and wants her back and she ditches us again for them. But wait now the leader of the clique dosent like her so when she comes back they tell her that they didnt want to hang out with her no more.And guess what she does next she comes back wanting to hang out with us me and my best friend say no we dont want out hang out with her but my other 2 friends say we do. And I say, fine but if she stays I leave and they let me leave. and Finally i tell that girl off and a couple minutes later she starts crying and but was I right to leave my old friends cause of this?
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There is a thing that seperates us from the animal kingdom, called communication. It is how we set ourselves apart from animals that don't know how to work out problems without fighting it out. Communication is the best weapon any person has to get feelings across, get past problems, and to make a situation better. Practicing now will make it easier for you in several aspects of your life in the future, i.e. friends, relationships, and careers. The more you learn to communicate effectively, the better at solving problems you will become.
Why am I saying this, relating to your problem? Easy, communicate with the girl that has hurt people and with the group that you hang around with. I realize it is easier to just walk away from a situation that you are less than thrilled with. However, when you confront your problems head on, you develop character. It helps you to feel in control of your own actions and destiny. It never hurts to communicate with those people to ensure that everyone can work on their faults.
Let your friends know that you were hurt by her, and they should have been too. They could at least all sit down and talk this over with the other girl before letting someone walk away with no thought to your feelings. Let this girl know that you thought of her as a good friend and she hurt your feelings. Also, tell her that you can heal from being hurt, but you cannot just forgive her on the spot. It is going to take time to work on your relationship with her, but it will happen. Let her know politely, that you would prefer if she would just stop going from one group to the next. Tell her that it is okay for her to have other friends, but to keep the friends that she has now.
Lord, I feel like such a girl scout at this time. The old saying "make new friends, but keep the old, one is silver, but the other's gold". It does have some truth to it though!
Happy "friends" to you!!
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well, i know you're probably pretty pissed, but never get mad at your friends because of the people they associate themselves with. you can disagree with them about if certain people are good or bad, but never tell them that they are wrong for hanging out with certain people. they can make their own decisions about who they want to hang out with. if you don't want to hang out with them because she's there, then you don't have to, but don't be mad at them. if they don't come back for you, then they aren't and weren't very good friends in the first place. if they do, then you know that they are good friends.
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