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Depression and Stereotyping
13/m
Ive had depression for about a year and i have reached my breaking point. I constantly feel that my place in this world should be filled by a more worthy individual. I'm always paranoid and stressed even over the most insignificant things. I take medication but it isn't working that well. Mt school situation isn't much better. I'm constantly hassled for my appearance and the lack of male friends i have. I have trust issues as well which would fall with paranoid. Any advice helps on the subject..... thank you.
-Dakota
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Dakota sweetie don't give up. Remember no mattter what you think, there is always going to be a huge group of people that love you. Set a couple of dreams and goals for yourself ans that will definatly keep you moving on. And at school, they're probably just jealous believe it or not. Don't care what they say because it won't matter the next day anyway. One point I want to make out is that if you have a lot of girlfriends, that may be why they're jealous.
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<3Caitlyn Chaise<3
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Don't beat yourself up too much about reaching this breaking point. It happens to everyone at some point, everyone has their bumps and bruises - you can get through whatever it is that needs getting through, but remember it will take time.
On the depression - hang in there. Medication has a 60% success rate, and they all take four to six weeks to start to work. If this much time has passed, talk to whoever prescribed the meds to you about switching. Most people go through two meds or so before finding the right one, some may go through eight, or possibly more. Don't sweat it. The cure for depression isn't so much a cure as a process. Often a big way to cure it as well is listening to yourself a lot, and not being afraid of taking some time to relax.
On being hassled - the best response to hassling is to act bored. No one cares if, in anger, you make a good point of defense. But if you are bored, and people aren't having fun making fun of you, they will back off. If the teasing is really getting to you, or if it's getting extreme, you could always talk to some sort of school guidance person.
On trust issues - you don't have to reveal everything about yourself to socialize. Practice starting small, casual, funny conversations in the locker room, or before and after classes. Get into the habit of not judging so much you say, if this often stops you from talking.
Hang in there =]
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I do not know what type of depression you're in, and I can assure you that I'm no doctor; but if there's something I've truly learned throughout the years is that something that can influence a depression is simply the way one looks at life. Man is made, maybe not to be the happiest of all, but at least to truly feel a place of belonging in the world. I do not want to sound corny or religiously fanatic while I say this, because I'm not; but the one who is most in charge in one's life is oneself and God, your Creator. I would advice of you to pray faithfully.
Also, when it comes to your appearance, it is basically common sense to me that your appearance in completely irrelevant; rather, I would say, that it would take a truly confused person on the ways of life to hassle another for it's appearance. An appearance, a physical appearance, does not make you; but rather, the person inside.
As for your lack of male friends, well, I would have to say that, although friendships are a beautiful thing, they do not determine a person, but their values and their ability to love. If you are loving and have no friendships, then it might probably be that the friendship it based on much more mundane things and it isn't worth it to begin with. You should only worry when you are not loving and have many friendships, for there it would be an agreement on a materialistic basis.
Also, if your trust issues involve you to expect many things out of the people you deposit your trust into... well, I can't really say there's anything wrong with that. A person most prove himself worthy of trust before being trusted.
Lastly, sometimes the best remedy for when you get paranoid over small things is to get a larger picture of the world. Sometimes, the worst of things happen when you obsess about the small things because it blinds you of the bigger picture, which usually never cares for the small or insignificant of things.
In the end, I truly hope you feel better. I know that I don't exactly know you, and that I have never met you to truly see how you are, making it hard to give an advice that truly fits the problem; but I hope that I could be of some help.
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Hey, I'm taking a psychology class, and I'm no expert, but I want you to know that you are worth much more than you think. You aren't condemned to what you think of yourself. If your medication isn't working, that can be fixed. I really want you to go to your doctor and tell them that the medication isn't working. They can find something that will work, that will make your life a whole heck of a lot easier. Please, please, please seek help. There are people who can make things better for you. And as for the lowlifes who give you trouble, why do they matter? They only tear people down to make themselves feel better. I hope things get better for you.
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