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I call myself a Christian but i dont go to church. I have been trying to get my mom to take me, but it seems we never have the time. I always feel guilty for this and i know im not agnostic. I really want to be a good Christian, and stay loyal to God. But i find myself always cursing, and always doubting him. Thanks for any advice! :]
I would have to say that, in the road of every single Christian, there will always be a time of doubt or a time where he will be unsure of his faith. However, this is not unconquerable.
I don't know whether you are a Catholic, but, there was a Saint that used to say that there are several ladders in sainthood. One of them talked about how one of them, one of the lower levels, is when a person believes in God almighty, wishes to improve every single moment of his life, but finds himself failing constantly. She (the saint) says that this is usually due to either (1)a lack of knowledge of the sins being committed, and (2) a lack of love for God.
My advice to you would be to pray. Again, I don't know whether you're Catholic or not, but St.John Paul II used to say that prayer is the sword of every Christian. Pray that you may find the strength to do everything in his will and let Him teach you along the way. And yet again not knowing if you're a Catholic, remember that it is simply essential to go to Mass every single day possible. It is so, not only because it will allow you not only to remove yourself from any false ideas and allow you to be more instructed in the ways of the faith, but because it will allow you to receive Christ and body and blood. "You shall eat my body and drink my blood, in memory of me".
I sincerely hope I was of some help to you.
yeah so most of my friends have boyfriends or a speacial friend they talk to and i have some guy freinds but non that i like alot or to have a special relationship with people say im pretty and i dont think i'm ugly i mean ive had boyfriends but i havnt had one that ive had for months it would only be for like a couple of weeks nothing serious and if i find someone i like i would only like him for a few days...and when a guy talks to right away i asume that he likes me and i start getting all infactuated with them but they always turn me down or ill get over them easily my whole thing for writing this is that im 17 and im woried about boys and when i stop and think about it its really stupid but its hard not to think about when you have friends who all have someone so any advice on howi can get in a good realtionship? and some advice on why i go through guys really fast and fall for them fast??? thanks :)
Could it be that perhaps you may be happy enough in your life without them? Or that at least better without simple relationships? And maybe, perhaps, you simply see something good in them, or like the feeling of them being attracted to you and just as easily you're back to your regular self? If so, that is completely normal in many people and something you, I believe, shouldn't exactly worry about too much; it's something rather nice in a person in time to time.
in your opinion, do you think its better to be yourself or to follow others and why?
That is not a very easily answered question in my opinion. In reality, I believe that for you to answer yourself that question it is more important to understand what your own belief system is. However, there are good belief systems and wrong belief systems.
In my opinion, you need to be yourself before you follow others and you need to know yourself as well. If you don't, you would readily and easily be called a "follower", which usually has a poetic image of someone who doesn't have a mind for itself to think for and so faithfully depends on another sometimes less than himself in terms of, let's say, righteousness.
Also, one should only follow when there is a specific idea that should be followed, or a specific virtue that should be learned. Otherwise, one should never follow those that are blind and know little about what is right from wrong.
My advice would be, be yourself, and try that that "yourself" always seeks to be the best it can in the virtues of the human spirit; and always follow when you recognize that you should follow, but never out of a blind admiration.
I truly hope you understand what I've tried to explain.
So im in my last year of middle school and as you can imagine everyone cant wait to get out. Not only are people itching to leave but there also trying to find new friends...groups are separating and i don't no were to go...some friends hate over ones and everyone has become people i barely even recognize. I dot want to get swiped away in this gossipy situation but then what else is there to do? People are separating and i new this would happen but now that its here im confused on my place.
What just happened usually occurs when a close group of people is united by something that isn't a true and genuine feeling of love. And it usually occurs when there is something that unites them, such as sports, T.V. programs, or anything of a more "worldly" type; and when that thing is removed, everyone usually scatters to a more comfortable space.
My advice to you is that, if it is possible, to become that glue that connected all of your past friends and try to keep them together for the confusing times you are bound to reach. In the event that perhaps you may not be able to do such a thing, I would advice of you to always stay true to your values, to impose upon yourself a goal of a constantly improving "self", and to never succumb to any peer pressure that may lead you down a road that yourgood spiritual common sense would say otherwise.
I sincerely hope you survive, since I know I've lived through a similar situation.
okay so im kinda in a rut and i was just wondering, can you guys give me advice on why its important to be grateful for everything you have? also can you give me some examples of where youve personally had to believe that. also, people always say to me every experience has a silver lining. any thoughts? also...what do you really believe in? and why? like...i believe that you should always treat others the way you would like to be treated. what do you think? any thoughts would be appreciated. im going through a hard time right now and i just need some advice on beliefs and values. thank you for your time.
Before I answer this question I would like to say that the hardest things I would ever have to do in my life is to explain in words that others can understand, so I will only give examples.
To start of, I would like to start with the title of your question: "belief is a beautiful armour". Although belief can be a beatiful armour, and a truly strong and real one indeed, not all beliefs are a "beautiful armour", merely because everything we think is a belief. Your reason is itself an act of faith because you believe that it is actually reltated to the world you live in.
Secondly, I believe in one God. In this point, most poeople would like a reason to believe in a God, but all I can tell you are reasons why you should not believe there is no God and the simplest would be the following: Nothing cannot become into something, merely because it's not reasonable. The universe could not have popped up from nothing into something. Rather, I believe it far more reasonable to believe that, something or someone, if you do not wish to call him a God, that existed before time itself existed, made from nothing something in a way in which we cannot really understand. Also, human kind has always had a yearning or an intuition for God, even when most have never seen him; incredibly similarly to the newborn baby who has an intuition for food for when he needs it.
Thirdly, I do indeed believe that all should be grateful for what one has, it's just that I have never really based what I should be grateful for what I have in worldly manner, but by the one that fits my religion, the Roman Catholic Church. I thank God almighty every single time he gives me something, but that would never mean I would stop loving if he were to remove them. I am simply happy for him having made me so and that he has allowed me to become a participant of a truly happy, immortal life at the end of this one if I were only to follow his will for me in this life, which to begin with it is something I could never stop saying Thank you for.
Next, I do believe that every evil has a silver lining. But in reality, and I have to be honest, the exact systematization of all the good that comes from every single act of evil is not something that everyone is able to see; and I also fervently believe that, although goods can come out of evil, nothing good can happen for oneself by doing evil, or at least in a spiritual way.
Lastly, I would like to say why I do believe in the Roman Catholic Church, but in reality, I know there is not enough time or space to explain why I do believe in it. I believe that that is one reason why a certain phrase that goes similar to this: "There can be no explanation for the unbeliever, but for the believer, not explanations are necessary". But if I were to list, if only a couple of reasons, maybe not even necessarily in order, I would have to say that one of them is history. History teaches us that before what is called the coming of Christ, many religions were primarily polytheistic. However, it is obvious to say that these religions were basically made to supress some of the yearnings of soul; thus, there was the god of war, the war of envy, the war of power. All of these I would call "nature worship", and "nature worship" is basically the adoration of idols. Also, and this can be seen naturally in those ages, in societies which were polytheistic, the people themselves weren't exactly polytheistic because most prefered one side of their souls more satisfied than the other. Naturally, the god of war would not exactly be in good terms with their god of love and fertility and passion nor with the god of peace. As history goes on, there were other religions such as Buddhism which has many followers, but whose leader himself does not believe himself to be anything else that an enlightened one, similar to how an intelligent person may be enlightened. However, human being as he was, he was still subject to mistake. I do believe in his belief that for happiness, one must detach oneself from those things that bring oneself unhappiness and that virtues consist of an important part in the human soul, but I do not believe in the non-existence of a creator. Also, I cannot believe in his idea of reincarnation merely because there is no such thing as a perfect human being. If one were to deserve a heaven only once man is perfect, there would be no heaven for any. Even the most strongest of life-enclosured monks found impossible the complete detachment of sin or failure. Next, I believe in the Roman Catholic Church over other non-Catholic denominations for thousand of reasons. However, I do like to say among one of the lesser defenses, that when Martin Luther first broke the Church he did it only in the principles of Theological Truth. He often said there was only one truth and only one church to govern it. At the time, he simply didn't believe that that the Roman Catholic Church was the one that had the theological truth. However, nowadays, there are approximately 3,900 different non-Catholic Christian organizations, and when asked, most of them would tell you that it doesn't matter the one and true theological truth because everyone has about as much truth as anyone can get and they usually keep moving around that thought. This does not mean, however, that I am against anyone that is non-Catholic or anything similar to it, I am merely discriminating on a basis on thought and what I believe is error, and the true value of a person cannot be judged by what is missing links in reason, but rather the content of his heart.
Also, I believe in the Christian ideal because I look upon it as if it were common sense. It's bases around love which is basically like a glue that makes all stand together even throughout the differences and does not judge and envy.
I think... I said too much, I believe. I think I need to learn how to stop myself from bleeding words out when I type. Anyways, I hope I was able to be of some use to you, I truly hope you live on happily, and I apologize for the rather very long speech.
What is Christian Meditation? I want to know more about it because I heard that it brings you closer to Jesus. Also, what does it mean to "meditate on a scripture"? Is it literal? Thanks
Christian Meditation can be defined as, in my words, the communion between oneself and the holy spirit. Although I'm not entirely sure I can describe it, the best possible way for someone to truly understand how the spirit is present in their lives is to pray to God to show them.
After this is done, well, Christian Meditation is supposed to be done every single moment of a Christians life; it allows the person to know what the will of the Holy Father is and his duty for this life.
As to meditate on scripture, well, it's basically when one, with the aid of the Holy Spirit, meditates on the Scripture, and thus receiving the knowledge Jesus imparted to his apostles at the time of his death.
This can be seen, taken in a biblical context, how nearly at the time of his death, Jesus told his apostles why it was necessary for him to die. He said he needed to die so that the Holy Spirit may come in the future as his "counselor" so that each and every one of us, without the aid of a living Jesus, may be enlightened by it and may be able to decipher what the messages inside the Bible truly mean.
If it is of any help, this website is truly helpful if you decide to look up more information in a Catholic related way: www.newadvent.com/
I truly hope I could serve you
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Ive had depression for about a year and i have reached my breaking point. I constantly feel that my place in this world should be filled by a more worthy individual. I'm always paranoid and stressed even over the most insignificant things. I take medication but it isn't working that well. Mt school situation isn't much better. I'm constantly hassled for my appearance and the lack of male friends i have. I have trust issues as well which would fall with paranoid. Any advice helps on the subject..... thank you.
-Dakota
I do not know what type of depression you're in, and I can assure you that I'm no doctor; but if there's something I've truly learned throughout the years is that something that can influence a depression is simply the way one looks at life. Man is made, maybe not to be the happiest of all, but at least to truly feel a place of belonging in the world. I do not want to sound corny or religiously fanatic while I say this, because I'm not; but the one who is most in charge in one's life is oneself and God, your Creator. I would advice of you to pray faithfully.
Also, when it comes to your appearance, it is basically common sense to me that your appearance in completely irrelevant; rather, I would say, that it would take a truly confused person on the ways of life to hassle another for it's appearance. An appearance, a physical appearance, does not make you; but rather, the person inside.
As for your lack of male friends, well, I would have to say that, although friendships are a beautiful thing, they do not determine a person, but their values and their ability to love. If you are loving and have no friendships, then it might probably be that the friendship it based on much more mundane things and it isn't worth it to begin with. You should only worry when you are not loving and have many friendships, for there it would be an agreement on a materialistic basis.
Also, if your trust issues involve you to expect many things out of the people you deposit your trust into... well, I can't really say there's anything wrong with that. A person most prove himself worthy of trust before being trusted.
Lastly, sometimes the best remedy for when you get paranoid over small things is to get a larger picture of the world. Sometimes, the worst of things happen when you obsess about the small things because it blinds you of the bigger picture, which usually never cares for the small or insignificant of things.
In the end, I truly hope you feel better. I know that I don't exactly know you, and that I have never met you to truly see how you are, making it hard to give an advice that truly fits the problem; but I hope that I could be of some help.
so, im a christain. i've always been, but latley, ive really been getting into it since my boyfriend started bring me to youth group. and i know that having sex before marriage is wrong, and i was just wondering, is it just what YOU yourself think sex is thats wrong? or is it just touching and stuff thats wrong. because thats what me and my boyfriend do. we just touch and stuff, but we havent actually had sex. so does it just count on your beliefs? because me, i think that if you actually have sex before marriage, its wrong. thanks alot for your help!
Because you're a Christian, I shall try to give you the Christian view point.
Firstly, the Christian church, as you said, does not believe in premarital sex. As for the Roman Catholic Church, they believe that chastity in all the senses is the superb good; however, they also believe that there are many that are meant to have a meaningful relationship through the sacrament of marriage. Also, they believe that when one is in a relationship with another human being there will be various passions between those that are truly in love, or at least to those that have a genuine feeling of attraction and affection, and that they will be expressed in actions such as kissing, and touching. However, they do not believe in purely lustful passions, which would be the act of kissing, touching, or masturbating, which, in reality, it's considered a mortal sin unless in the act of sex within a married status with your life-long partner.
My advice to you would be that, if there is a completely genuine feeling of love and affection, one of the most beautiful things to do would be to enjoy such a relationship in the most spiritual way possible and to engage in such acts, such as kissing and touching, when it's completely uncontrollable (remembering, of course, that is important to know how to hold). Also, I would advice you to keep an eye out the passions which you feel are at all related to a true love and not merely a lustful or even a simple act of doing something because the feeling is good, which in this case would be called lust.
Please, do remember that what I've just told you is the Christian view.
I truly hope you find tranquility.