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about the relationship question...
I'm the one who asked for advice on my situation with the long distance boyfriend and the boy at school i like. Ok, yeah I said yes to my bf about getting married, too. I wanna take a break, but its not that easy...he's the type that once youre gone you cant come back...and i dont think i can stand to lose him. Its all or nothing with him, but...he doesnt know he's not getting my all...
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my boyfriend was the same way; he said he'd never wait on a girl, especially if it was over another guy. until it came to me, apparently. the truth is, if he loves you like he says he does, he'll respect your decision, and chances are if you are honest and eventually come back to him he'll come back to you as well. if he loved you that much why wouldnt he? can you force him to come back? no. but he cant force you to stay. if he puts that burden on you that if you leave, thats it, then thats manipulation and not a healthy aspect of a relationship. if its really meant to be, yall wont end up apart. but how will either of you know until you try it out? think about this, do you think what youre doing is fair to your boyfriend, being with him and liking someone else? its not, and thats exactly what i told my boyfriend, that it wasnt fair to him to be in a relationship i wasnt sure of. you cant stay because youre scared, i did that for too long. if he wants to be a jerk and refuses to get back with you if you break up with him, is that really the kind of insecure guy you want to spend the rest of your life with, no matter how sweet/wonderful he may seem? if you have any more questions, feel free to ask. like i said, no its not easy, its one of the hardest things in the world, but you have to do what is right for you and put your feelings first.
PS - think of it this way: could you imagine yourself gettin married RIGHT now ? obviously not since you are not 100% committed to him. but thats not a bad thing! staying with him would evidently be going in that direction. soo many people these days jump into marriage before they are ready, either because they automatically think they have "the one" or because they get married early when they have that new relationship spark. and you see how high the divorce rate is now. you KNOW you want to have more experiences, so take your chance. its like they say, when one door closes, another one opens. <3
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