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junebug93,
thank you for the advice about bobby.
the only thing is that sometimes, it's almost as if he wants to be with me, and then other days he doesn't.
i was really upset with one of my friends a few weeks ago, and i was in the athletic trainer's office thinking about it and he came in. he was all happy and was trying to get me to laugh. if i look him in the eyes, i cant help but laugh because he'll do so much to make me smile.
he would always let me so his hair when it was long, but when another girl would try to, he would pull away.
thats when it finally hit me that i like him alot.
however, we got into a fight because i was going to spend the day with him after school before one of my games, and he was going to go.
but he didn't tell me that he was bring the girl who he liked at the time with him.
so they sat there flirting infront of me.
when i confronted him about it, he got all mad and it was almost as if he tried to make it my fault.
but then when i finally realized being mad at him would do nothing, i talked to him abotu he and he said he was sorry too.
i feel like somedays, he wants to be with me, but other days he doesnt.
how do i know what he wants?
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I've thought about this for a while and I'd say
a) He could be confused about what he wants... sometimes he feels like he wants to joke around with you, sometimes he thinks he really likes you. This is probably really annoying, but bear in mind that it's normal when you like someone (for some people, at least). There's always the "I kindof like _____, but what if it's not that serious?" where you constantly talk yourself in and out of liking someone.
b)There's some kindof event sequencing to all this. Like say, he's been acting as though he's falling for you for a bit, then you laughed at him when he confessed his feelings, so now he's a little wary of you, and trying to forget liking you and move on.
c) The girl he flirted with: people may flirt with others whether or not they like them. As well, it's possible that what could be to them joking around could be seen as flirting, when it doesn't even mean anything. Not saying this is the case but keep that in mind =]
So anyway. About what you should do. Let's say you try to get over him, never do anything. You'll always be wondering what could have been, right? And, since you did laugh at him for saying he loved you, he may not come forward about it again, even if it's true that you mean everything to him.
I stand by my previous advice that you should do something that at least hints you like him. From reading the post, I'm almost positive that he does , in fact, like you. He got defensive about him flirting with someone else, didn't he? And didn't he apologize for the flirting? What guy would do that unless he wasn't, in some way, attached to someone else?
For V-day, send him a card and some chocolate or something. Write something on the card that mentions your friendship, but mentions in some way liking him more than that... Like, you know, something like "Thanks for letting me play with your hair, and making me smile".
Ask him out in whatever way it makes sense for you to do this ("Are you free valentine's day?" or... something in your own words =]). Or you could bring up him saying he loved you, and say you kindof feel the same way before he mumbles some lame coverup excuse to not sound crazy for getting you to laugh at him.
Go for it, girl! If he's been trying to confess/flirt with you all this time without much response, of course he's not sure of what he wants!
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