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still confused about him...
i asked before about this guy i liked (call him *mark*), and wasn't sure how he felt about me..and i'm still unsure. i previously wrote how i found out he was going to paris w/this girl over winter break and i thought i had no chance anymore, yet he would still touch my arm and laugh at my jokes and smile.everyone who responded said that he is interested, and i thank you so much for your advice b/c i needed it! over break i emailed him while he was in europe and me out of town, just to see how things were going, and to show i think about him, that's as much guts as i could muster. well he wrote a lot, even sent me pictures of him there, so i thought okay at least he's comfortable around me as a friend and eager to respond. once school began, i asked how paris was, he said the girl he was supposed to meet up with just ditched him, didn't even show up and doesn't know why. now i didn't ever like this girl and i think that was so harsh to leave him like that and not keep her promise, but i wonder why she'd do that, and why he wouldn't prod into it. okay. so now he doesn't touch my arm, but he still laughs at stuff i say ,for example i remark that the limited hours for the local pool is stupid. he laughs, he really enjoys it. i know that's lame but just to show how easy he is around me, i guess. and he's a soccer player yet he's brought up how he wants to swim, i'm a swimmer, i wonder if he's trying to share a common hobby. and when he asked about my trip, he was sitting across the table but then he leaned forward, i've heard that's a good sign too, and when this other guy would remark on stuff i'd say i realized *mark* would be looking at me. then the next time he saw me he said "hey" but it sounded meaningful, yet the whole time i was there he practically ignored me and was talking to that other dude. and then the third time we meet up(he studies w/our same group of friends in this room so i always stop by), i mention to my friend, who swims like me, that i saw a picture of this male swimmer (she thinks he's hot), and all i said was, "hey i saw his picture in this swim magazine" and *mark* all of a sudden says to me "why do you make a big deal out of him? do you have to see him shirtless, you like it?" and i go "it's not a big deal *mark*" i was shocked, i honestly didn't know what to say. then he retorts "yeah well the magazine didn't Force you to look at his picture." i mean, what's up w/that??i didn't know what to say, he just snapped at me all of a sudden, and was looking at the floor the whole time, it was a little funny b/c it came out of nowhere, but i'm so confused, was he jealous? today he saw me going into the computer lab so i could study while he was on his way to class w/our group of friends, and after class everyone but him came over to talk to me. i didn't go over to see him at his usual study spot today, b/c i felt that if he liked me he'd find a stupid excuse to come into the computer room just to see me. he's been sending so many mixed signals, and i've been wasting my time thinking about it and i don't want to anymore, i want to move on,b/c it hurts. i don't understand, he knows some girls i bet, but he sees me more than other girls, and i'm sure he doesn't feel as inclined to laugh w/them as he does w/me. and it's not just our humour, he gets me, and i him. i'm so sorry for this being super long and scattered, and this is abridged!! but i would appreciate it so much if anyone can help!!! thank you!
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damn thats long.
whew.
MOVING ON.
yeah, he still sounds interested. one of my exes is doing the same thing when im talking about johnny depp or something (lol). maybe you could ask him why he snapped at you. because, you know, honestly, thats really lame. and childish. you dont have a right to him. you can look at guys pictures if you want to! you're a girl!! anyways, hope everything works out! :)
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It sounds as if he's on the rebound. This girl breaks up with him for no reason when he's away, he comes back all subdued and upset, which would explain as to why he doesn't touch your arm anymore because it could remind him of his recent break up.
The way he reacted to the photo tells me that he's got feelings for you, but looking at a half-naked guy in a magazine could tell him that you're not interested in him anymore. Going into the computer room and not seeing him could be helping him think this way. I can see you've got extremly good intentions, but he's mis-interperating those signals.
What to do: go to him and tell him that you're still interested in him, but he's giving out all of these mixed signals and with all of these mood swings, you don't know how he feels about you. Ask him how he feels about you and then see what happens.
Good luck with the future,
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