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she's messed with my head way too many times.....
well for one, im a dude. but anyway, theres this girl i've been dating for the past 3 years off and on. and for 3 years, shes basicly has pulled me around by my nose i guess you could say. shes hurt me more times than i can count, but for some reason i still love her. (by the way, im 16, and i know yall goin say i dont know what love is, well trust me, i got a pretty good idea)but the problem is im tired of gettin hurt, i really am, and she knows shes hurting me. how she hurting me you say? well, shes real moody, i mean more than normal moody, and she'll get real ticked off and break up with me, then go out with another dude and rub it in my face. and yes i still love her through it. then she'll say shes sorry we'll get back together, and some other stuff will happen to break us up. im just i dont know... tired of it, but the problem is i still LOVE HER!! so what yall think i should do?
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If you know what love is babe, I think you idea of love is a sucky one.
Seriously, with all admiration and respect to you and your feelings: Grow a pair.
There are plenty of women who will stomp all over you in kelts, for years, if you keep letting them. At some point love becomes redudant, it becomes a useless fact, even if it is true. It stops being enough.
If you are truly tired of it then you need summon up courage, cry out your heartbreak and just end it. There is no trick to doing this. One of these days you'll just get fed up enough, unhappy enough, and sick enough of it to finally call an end to it. Maybe you are not quite there yet, but I hope you'll get there soon.
When you get there, make a clean break. No more phone calls and or conversations about 'feelings'. When you finally get free, stay free, even when it hurts, and find someone else to love.
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On a less dramatic scale, I seem to have a pretty good grasp of the thoughts going through your girlfriend's head. Meaning: I'm in the same position as her, but I'm not as mean about it.
I'll tell you what she's thinking:
She doesn't know what she wants. She's only 16, and she really shouldn't have to. But frankly, neither should you. If I were you, and if you really love her, you need to help the both of you. You should call a break for a little while. You both need to explore your other options and to see what else is out there. You are 16, now is the time where you should be doing these things!
She is playing games with you to test you. She wants to see if you will stay with her through all the challenges she puts you through. But you need to have some self respect and to let her know that she is pushing you away and if she keeps up this terrible behaviour, you are going to leave her.
I pity any guy that has to go through what you are going through. And let me tell you, I know what it's like to have a broken heart. But you really need to start thinking about yourself. You need time by yourself to see what you really want.
Good luck and please let me know how things go!
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You came here for advice, and that's what you are going to get. I can't say that this won't sound harsh, but it seems to be what's going on. I hope I don't offend, but at least open your eyes to the way things are going.
First off, you may know what love is, but she seems as if she doesn't. She also seems as if she is just using you for her inbetween flings, kind of like a safety net for dating so she won't have to be alone. She seems very immature and selfish. Do you really want to spend any part of your life with someone like that?
I know you love her, but think of it this way. Isn't easier to get the pain done all at once instead of torturing yourself over and over again? What if you were to finally cut her loose, and then get over her once and for all, then find someone new who treats you better? It's time to cut that relationship off, and let her be the one who suffers this time, not you. Good Luck!!
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