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suggestions on helping to improve grades
My daughter is in the third grade. We have been having problems the past few years getting her to do good work. Her grades are slipping farther and farther down.
We have tried to work with her with her studies. We have made notecards for her to study. We have also gone through everything with her. We have made flash cards to learn math. She just doesn't do the work at school.
I can't afford to take her to specialty "tutoring" schools. I have tried contacting the local school board about tutors that can help her with her studies. I have done everything imaginable to get her on the right track, but nothing seems to work.
My questions are: how do I help her to get her grades back up? How do I encourage her to do good at school? What could be motivators that could allow her to want to succeed?
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I know it sounds horrible and that the last two people said it already, but bribery has to be the one thing that makes ME want to do better in school. My parents use it on me a lot, and it totally works. Pick one thing she's been really wanting for a long time and tell her she can have it, but only if she tries harder in school. But sometimes you have to realize a children's best doesn't always mean an amazing grade. Sometimes my parents don't realize that my best isn't always that amazing, so you have to take that in consideration. Hope I helped!
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I think bribery will work... definitely. Daughters love spending quality time with their moms, so you can tell her that if she makes good grades all week that on Saturday you'll take her out for ice cream (or to a movie, or whatever her choice). That is a great incentive. It would be great if you could keep close contact with her teacher and perhaps get a weekly report, if possible. The fact of the matter is that your daughter won't do well if she doesn't want to do well, so you have to make her really want that. As far as helping her, if she has homework or things to do at home, you could try checking them and going over assignments with her. Even something small, like a little encouragement note in her backpack every day, can really boost her attitude and make her want to do well. It's great that you've already been trying to get her a tutor. A lot of parents don't go to that much trouble for their kids, which is sad. But yes, it's very possible to help your child with even a little bit of motivation. It doesn't even need to be materialistic; like I said, I am 16 and I really value time spent with my mom because I love her. I hope things work out :)
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What worked for me was straight-out bribery. I was having problems in junior high, so my mom and I made a deal. For every 'A', I'd get a record (this sort of reveals my age). If I got an A in math (my worst subject) I got a record and a blank tape (I was big into mixtapes back then). I built up quite a collection of vinyl by the time I started high school.
You might want to try something like that, if her problems are simply motivational. There may be other reasons for her dropping grades, anything from learning disabilities to stress at school. I gotta tell ya, I had plenty of home and school stress plus a learning disability, and getting all those records was a big motivator for me.
Hope this helps.
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