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my friend dissapeared..its been 5 months..
last winter i became friends with a girl named gianna who i worked with at a grocery store. i was a sophomore in high school and she was a senior but we both went to different schools. our friendship grew as the year went on and i always had a great time around her and never felt like she was judging me. at random times, she would tell me these weird reasons why she couldn't hang out. she said her parents grounded her because she was seeing her boyfriend who was two years younger than her and they didn't like the idea of that. she quit her job at the grocery store and said it was because her mom didn't like the people who worked there and that we were corrupting her, since she goes to catholic school and the rest of us go to public school. keep in mind she was no more innocent than the rest of us, and none of us are druggies or alcoholics or anything. she said she wasn't allowed to hang out with me for this reason. over the summer we started hanging out again and we got so close. she was calling me almost everyday to hang out and we always had a great time. she still said she wasn't allowed to hang out but since she drives, it didn't really matter. she was starting college in september at a local school and she was nervous so i called to wish her good luck the day before and she was so happy to hear from me and thanked me and asked if she could call me back in a few minutes so i said okay. she never called back that night, and i never talked to her again. i've called her cell phone and left messages, text messaged her, and called her house. when i called her house, she answered but when i said it was me she hung up. on new years at like 1am, she finally came on AIM but her away message was on instantly and it said she had been onlnie for 8 hours. so i i/med her saying omg gianna please answer me and she signed off again. i checked on another screen name and truth comes out she blocked me. the story gets worse, someone who works with me and worked with her in the past saw her sitting in the parking lot of the grocery store. she was sitting in her car for over an hour. it was definately her, the person went to the car to say hi but she didn't say anything about why she dissapeared for so long. i miss her like crazy, nothing is the same without her. i don't know what to think and i don't know how to get her back. ideas on anything would be a big help! and thanks to whoever took the time to read this long thing<3
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It seems that there is something going on at the house. It could be the fact that the parents think that your a bad influence on her but i don't think that you are. You say that she wasn't allowed to hang out with you or work at the grocery store because the parents say that it's corrupting her?
Just one question: are the parents very religious people? If they are, then that could be the problem. They are trying to 'protect' from the big bad world, if you get the idea. They don't want her to be raised around what they mught call rough people. Do say if i'm wrong.
Now, what to do. Try and approach her and ask her why she's done what she's done. Say that you still want to be friends with her and that you don't want the friendship to end. See what she says and then continue from there.
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It definitely does sound strange. If she wants to contact you she surely can. She knows your number, she has your aim and she knows where you work. There is no telling why things are the way they are. Some people just do very strange things. This may be because of her family. Maybe she found some guy. She does owe you an explanation I feel but you probably wouldn't get the truth anyhow. She has had plenty of time to let you in on things. The thing is, she probably thinks your clingy because you desperatly try to talk to her. Let her go. You sound like you like her as more than ta friend. Maybe her bf didn't like the idea of her with another guy so much. Maybe she just used you to make him jealous. If she wanted to talk, you would have heard from her. I wouldn't worry about it. I'd just chalk it up as one more girl doing totally illogical stuff.
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Her behavior is extremely bizarre. Dont be too hard on yourself, you really are trying but for some reason she isnt responding. Who knows if she has family issues, or other problems. She knows your concerned, i would maybe back off a bit. She may come to you to talk, but you cant MAKE her talk to you. Its an unfortunate situation but maybe she needs time to herself and hopefully she will come around. good luck! :)
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