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ok well this is really embarassing .. everyone has made out already and i still havnt had my first kiss people tell me that you have to wait for the right guy then when you know your ready it will just happen
well i found a guy that i like and he likes me and we've become really close .. im afraid that he'll slip away if i dont make a move i'll bore him ... whens the perfect time to make a move? whats the worse that can happen??
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The best thing to do is, once you've gotten to know him more, ask him out in semi-casual ways, ie, if there is something interesting going on in your town/city/suburb, ask if he'll go with you, or ask him if he wants to hang out on any specific day (eg. on a random school day, or Friday night, he's not doing anything so you ask, "Hey, would you like to get a hot chocolate with me?". You could also ask him out more formally to see a movie, but these can be less fun since you don't really get to talk to the person. Establishing some kind of regular hanging out is probably the best way not to bore the guy, better than randomly kissing him when you're not really sure it's going anywhere. Don't feel like you have to rush into your first kiss. There's something to be said for going with the flow, and not forcing anything.
So anyway, once you've sortof hung out a few times, check to see if you get "I like you" vibes from him. Usually you can tell by how much he teases you, or the way he looks at you. You don't have to be afraid to make the first move, but pouncing on him to kiss him is sortof awkward and random. Basically, get into the habit of being closer to him. You can touch his hand and see if he'll hold it, put an arm around him, tease him whilst playfully tugging his arm. Once you've broken the "touch" barrier, you can move your face in closer. Tilt your head to the side and part your lips slightly as you lean in. Once your lips touch, close your mouth slowly and then lean back again.
As it's your first time, you may want to follow him for the actual kiss, ie mirror his lip movements. You may want to wait until you guys get more flirtatious, establish that you like each other and want to see each other regularly, or you may just go for it. You could try going for the kiss yourself or you could watch him, see when he's ready, or wait for him to kiss you first.
The worst that can happen in this case is you could be a terrible kisser - likely if you haven't kissed before, but nothing to worry about if you let him guide you, or if he likes you. If he likes you it won't really matter how skilled you are. Actually him liking you is probably just a good thing in general. The absolute worst would be to find out he didn't care about you at all. This is avoided with my earlier suggestions to be sure you know him, ask him out, ect. Don't sweat it too much. Mainly enjoy on getting to know the guy and trusting what feels right to you. Kissing can be fun, but try not to let that pressure you. Who gets it first isn't a race so just move at your own speed =]
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Ok if he really loves you what ever mistake you do he will understand. its practically young love and my advise on the right time to kiss is when he starts giving you the signs. you guys say your really close so maybe its just a matter of opening up to him and telling him about it. It will boost up your confidence at the same time.
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i think that if he really likes you and you really like him the perfect time will just come! all you do it just lean in a lil and he should pull in the rest of the way! and dont be scared .. i was SO nervous when i first madeout which embarassily was in the summer going into 9th grade! cause i was SO scared to makeout! but i think that if you really like him the ''perfect time'' will just be there and its like you'll know when you want to kiss him! and the worst that can happen is he could break up with you cause you wont do anything .. and that is the WORST type of guy to like, so dont even worry about him then because if he pressures you just to makeout im sure he would pressure you to do more! so dont even worry! message me with anymore questions! tell me if everything works out! i hope i helped! :)
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