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My [semi] guy friend
15/f
I have a 'semi' guy friend. What I mean by semi, is that we talk a lot in the halls and laugh a lot and like each others company. However, I don't have his number, only his screenname [he rarely gets on]. I have a crush on him, and really like him a lot. Recently, he transferred out of the one class that I had with him because he didnt like it. There's this cheerleader, and when she saw him in the hall, she goes "OMG [his name]! It's SO GOOD TO SEE YOU! OMG CLASS IS SOOO boring without you! You should switch to my art class" and he goes "yeah I know, [class name] sucks". I was right there, and I was about to go and talk to him. She's always making flirtatious remarks when she's around him, and quite frankly, I think she's obnoxious and a sl*t [she's been with 4 other guys, hooked up with them, gotten drunk, had pics up on facebook semi naked and her in her thong]. I recently found out that this OTHER girl has a crush on him as well. I was a little depressed when I found out that he had transferred classes. We still see each other during passing period, and my best friends locker is right next to his.
I talked to my mom about this and she said that if he's a good guy, he'll realize that I was right there to begin with. The Sweetheart Dance is coming up in early February. I'm a little scared because I think that he will ask the cheerleader to go with him. My mom said that again, he's not a little kid, and will know who the right girl is. He's not like most guys who only try to get in a girls pants. He's not a major flirt, and he's really nice [not to mention cute]. I know that I should probably get over him, but I'm not desperate or anything like that. I want to hang out with him and just be around him more. He only talks to me and occasionally the cheerleader when she approaches him. I want to be the one to make the first move, but my mom said that I should let him do what he wants, and if he truly likes me, he'll go after me instead of me going after him.
Any advice? Sorry that this was so long.
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okay, well. try finding him when ever he is alone. i don't mean stalk him, but find a time when he isn't too busy and talk about random stuff. it's best for a guy to know that if he decides to go out with you it won't be all awkard. be friendly but don't make him think you're not into him.
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You should tell him straight up that you like him, before later on you'll regret not telling him. But make sure to youself is he worth it? If he likes a sl*t, is he the guy you'll really wanna like? But if your positive you like him, tell him before it's too late.
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If he truly likes you he would ask you out. However, he's a guy, he's a teenager, he doesn't seem to know you, the cheerleader, or the other girl very well. He doesn't know who he likes.
That's what flirting is for. The cheerleader, though I'm not suggesting you emulate her, has the right idea, here. She's letting this guy get to know her, she's joking around with him, flirting, letting him know who she is and that she's interested.
While flat out asking him out would be intimidating and put pressure on the guy, you can make the first move in other ways, in the flirting way of sending off "I'm interested" vibes. If you take your mom's advice completely and just wait for him to "come to his senses", he'll move on and never notice you, because you never allowed him to notice you in the first place.
What you need to do is be his friend but have a bit of a jokey/flirty relationship with him. You can look at what you would consider to be flirty as something to think about, but at the very least you should get to know him. Talk to him when you can, say hi to him in the hallways, and try to catch him at the beginning/ end of class. If something happens and you have a funny comment to say about it, say it when he's nearby, and try to make him laugh. Laughing and being semi ridiculous is sorta the spirit of flirting in a lot of ways.
In the halls, when you see him and have started talking a little more, try to strike up conversations. Don't worry necessarily about how intelligent/funny/thought out your words are if it 's gonna stop you from saying something... and if you're both bored after school you can hang around him and strike up conversation, or suggest going out for a coffee or something once you get to know him a little better. It's a way to ask someone out without any of the awkwardness or the expectation of a "date".
As for the sweetheart dance, it's a little ways away. Use your judgment: if you feel you should ask him, go for it; if you think it's awkward, don't. Mainly focus on getting to know him better and developing some kind of friendship/flirtation with him. Don't be intimidated by the cheerleader. Girls like that sometimes just flirt with a lot of different people when it doesn't mean anything, anyway... she may even have a boyfriend on the side, who knows. Just focus on you, and getting to know the guy. And good luck =]
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next time the cheerleader goes up to him and talks to him...you go up to him to..not being rude to her..but include yourself in the conversation and just try and tell ehr that he is mine..kinda thing. If you wnat him to relize that you is who he wants, then you need to be more noticed by him so next time you see him in the halls just go up and start a conversation. and next time you talk to him, ask if he wants to go out with you and a whole bunch of friends and arrange a group of pople to go somewhere so you can hang out with him. it is just teh little things taht could make the difference..so just try it..and i wish you good luck..have fun
~sealgirl~
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