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I'm an invisible doormat
All through High School, I've been trying to be really nice to everyone. One of my friends warned me that people would just take advantage of me, and it seems like she was right.
You see, I'm in college, and when I go home, I like to hang out with my home friends, but whenever I do, I feel excluded. They'll use me to drive them around, and we'll end up wasting the whole night. Then when I say we should hang out again, they say "uh huh" and forget about me until the next time they need me. I always listen to all their problems, but when I tell them mine, they don't care.
I hate being alone on vacations, and my school friends are all pretty far from me. What do I do?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
There is an old saying: "Nice guys finish last."
Now, being nice isn't a bad thing, but allowing yourself to be so nice people take advantage of you isn't. THAT is how that saying rings true. Stop doing favors for those who could care less about you any other day of the week.
I'm a pretty nice person, too, but I also have boundaries to my kindness. If I know someone just wants to use me for my kindness, I use the word NO.
NO I will not be your taxi service.
NO I will not be your free therapist.
NO I don't need fake friends like you.
Saying NO and refusing to be used doesn't make you a mean person. You can only be so nice.
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the only thing that anyone can tell you on this site is to stand up for yourself dont be the nicest girl in school all it will do is make people feel like they can take advantage of you just be yourself dont be someone eles even if that someone eles is the nice girl ok just be yourself then you will get some real friends good uck i hope i helped
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