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I always have this problem.
My heart is always torn between two different guys.
I've got this one guy. He knows where he's going in life. The only thing, is he is in a band and it is always hope with that stuff. They don't know if they will get a record deal, and get tons of money. But he has graduated high school, is getting his driver's liscence, and heavily also looking for a job while dealing with the band.
The other guy. He is pretty much homeless, a high school dropout, no body really likes him, and i don't even know what else. But he really cares for me and would do anything for me. I mean anything.
Seems easy, right? Well it's not. The story is, I was dating the guy with the band, and i kinda ended up cheating on him with the other guy. Now he says that he doesn't hate me for it, but it's going to take him a while to get over it. He also says that in the future if things don't work out we might get back together, but I just really don't know. I really miss him because I at least know with him I was going to get supported in any way possible.
Also, I may be pregnant. The thing with that is, I would have no idea whose it would be, and the guy that i am with that is homeless and makes no money seriously thinks its his, and i think it may be (or i just want it to be) the guy who is actually going somewhere with his life, but then there is also this other guy i dated like 2 months ago whose it might be if i am. but i haven't had that monthly thing in a month and a half, and i am getting kind of worried. I just don't know guys, any help possible would be great. anything you can say, say it. i am in a serious rut here. thanks guys.
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wow ok ummmm i think tht you should go 4 the one you really love and 2 me it seems lke you dont love either of them i mean love is something tht cant b brought together b/c of a baby i mean i kno it would b a lil hard 4 the baby b/c i am someone who was born under a situation lke tht but wat i think is tht you should get a dna test and you should wen the baby is born tell him/her who their father is so theres not any mixup later on in life so your kid wont hate you 4 not tellin and the story can go on and on but go with your heart it dosnt matter who can support you or who the babys father is but wat dose matter is wat your heart tells you so thts all i can tell you to do
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(deep inhale) that is a hard one!! you always want someone who will do anything for you, but you dont want someone who you know would probably go days without shelter. (if im understanding this) you said you wanted it to be band dude's fetus...well then take a DNA test. or maybe its too early for that....depends on how far along you are. anyways...im always torn between like 2 or 3 maybe even 4 guys at once. if i were you, i'd choose band dude. course, im not in your head and i dunno what you have been through with homeless dude. so just ask yourself "who can i picture myself with in 3 or 4 years?" and "who will most likely be able to support me and the baby?" right now, if im understanding correctly, the band dude will probably support the baby since he has a home, and is looking for a job. other dude seems hopeless to me. im sorry. i hope it all works out. take care! :))
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It seems like you want the boy who can't support you because you want the baby to be his, but you want the guy [band one] who is going to support you and your baby, who makes you feel safe. But think of it this way, if the guy who probably won't be able to support you were able to support you, would you like him better than the guy who is in the band? And if your answer to that is yes, choose him because that is who your heart wants to belong with, no matter what his finacial troubles are. Try to do what your heart tells you, but if you really feel THAT insecure tell the guy who is jobless to get a job and show you that he can support you, and if he can't do that he can't do EVERYTHING or ANYTHING for you and it would be better if you just stuck with the guy in the band.
Good luck and I hope you make the right choice!
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