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Ok. I have been really good friends with this guy for quite a long time. Last year we kinda started v flirting and stuff.(wow.)Along the months we became more friends than in a bf/gf relationship.Really good friends, and well, that was really great with me.I loved it. Well, we go to different schools now. I eventually realized that i really had a crush on him.In the summer i was trying to forget about him completely so i could move on in my life, have a crush on someone else maybe. but it never worked, or even happened.If anything, i thought of him even more. I honestly haven't liked anyone else in 2 years!!
I care soooo much about him.I realize that sounds rediculous but it is so true.(By the way , i know the difference bettween puppy love.i do have experience with this kinda stuff, considering i watch my friends go throuigh it all the time. igt gets annoying sometimes) I actually worry about him though. There is not a day i don't worry about him. about three times a week, i constantly wake up at night thinking about him.I pray for him all the time, that nothing bad happens to him, and that he has a good life, and learns from his mistakes. I don't think that i'm IN love with him, but i DO LOVE him . no doubt.
I still talk to him all the time. i have told no one of these feelings, and i don't really think i want too. it is much harder typing them outin words than saying it because i have so much unexpressed feeling towards him that i cannot even explain.
I just wanted to know if anyone else out there has ever had the same "truely" strong feeling toward anyone. aka-Not just puppy love. this is mostly going out towards the experienced, the ones that have acually felt a strong, REAL love.(not really teens...srry)
This is not entirly a question, but i do think it could be advise.If there are any stories??
by the way, im a female and in high school.
Thanx.
sAmeMistAke
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
When you truly love someone, it is not easy to just move on.
You said you haven't liked any one besides this boy in two years. That is not uncommon. Love is a very deep emotion. Humans were not meant to fall easily in and out of love. Our purpose is to find that one person we love and devote ourselves to that person for the rest of our lives. That is how we were programmed. Therefore, when you find your first true love at a young enough age that you don't end up together, your "program" cannot just be ignored or started over.
I did have a problem getting over someone once. It really hurt. It took me probably 2 or 3 years to get to where I honestly didn't have those deep feelings for him anymore.
However, in your situation you are still friends and talk all the time. You didn't mention anything in your history that suggests you two can't be together. He goes to a different school. Is it so far away that you could never see him or hang out once in a while? I guess what I am a little confused about is what your urgency is to "get over him completely" when the two of you are still friends and talk. Now, if he has moved far away and this is impossible, then that is a different story. It is probably best for you to meet new people and try to get involved with healthy activities that help take your mind off of him. But if he is close enough that the two of you can be at least friends, if not more, then why put yourself through the agony of getting over him?
There is a little issue I have. It almost sounds as if he has some serious issue. You said you worry about him all the time and you pray for him all the time, you even wake up worrying about him. If there IS something he is facing that causes you to worry... you should be there for him if he needs a friend to talk to. Otherwise, it is probably best for you to keep a bit of a distance until he works his issue out. If there is NOTHING wrong with him, you are just a worry wart... you may want to consider the idea of anxiety issues on your part and work on that before you attempt to get involved in a relationship. You always need to work on your own emotional issues before dragging someone else into the picture.
Clearly I do not have all the information. I hope I have given you some help with the information I was provided.
Also, you made a few comments such as wanting to know if "anyone else out there" had these issues and "this is going out to the experienced ones". I don't know if you meant for everyone at advicenators to see this, but this was put directly into my personal inbox. I was honored to answer you, but if you want anyone else's input, you may want to paste this into another location for others to be able to see it.
Best of luck.
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