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Mad at me & don't know why.
All of a sudden a ton of my friends have something aganst me and I have no idea why. I'm not one of the mega-popular girls, but its safe to say I [used to be] well-liked in my group of friends. But in the last few weeks, I've found out that so many people have either turned against me (I have no idea why) or forgotten about me, and I feel so rejected. I barely have anyone to talk to anymore that won't pick me over another person in my group, and its really depressing.
The only thing I can think of that may have changed the way that they feel about me is that I went away on vacation a few weeks ago, and I came back looking, well, tanner, and my hair was lighter, and I guess that made me look prettier (I know that sounds conceited, I'm sorry, I'm really not). My point is, could they, possibly, maybe, be jealous of me? I don't act any different. Btw, I find it absolutely hilarious that anyone would be jealous of ME-- there is so much shit going on with my home life its not even funny. And now, with this, I just don't know what to do. My friends were basically one of the only parts of my life keeping me sane. I was so happy, even with all this shit in my life, and now... even my used-to-be best friend rarely talks to me anymore. (She's not mad at me, she's just found friends that she has more classes with, but when she's with both of us, she chooses them over me.)
I'm tired of being rejected from everything. I didn't even do anything!
So bascially, I just want to know if you think my friends are jealous (again, hah!) and how I can make my friendships go back to they way they used to be.
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Have they been actually saying anything mean to you and putting you down? It sounds like they aren't exactly being MEAN to you but they're just starting to ignore you a little and pay more attention to other people. I know, it sucks. I've been there. But the thing is, they're probably not even realizing how much it hurts you. The reason why they're doing it is probably not because they're mad at you or anything. You should talk to them about how you feel.
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I find it hard to believe that a true friend would be jealous (to the extreme) that you got tan that they would stop being friends with you.
There may be something else going on though. I would suggest you talk to each one individually. Ask him/her. Have a real heart to heart. State that you may be being ultra sensitive due to your personal issues at home, but you feel a little left out of your friend group. Ask if there is something that has happened or been done that has upset your friend. Make it clear you enjoy their friendship and hope nothing too serious is wrong because you would like to work through it.
I am a very firm believer in honesty and communication. I believe that with honest communication you can resolve anything. It may not be the resolution you had expected... but honesty is the best policy and no one knows how you are feeling unless you tell them. Vice-versa... you don't know how a person feels unless you ask them.
I hope everything works out for you. I am still friends with my closest friend from high school (we graduated 12 years ago) and that is very special. You go through so much together at that age. Open up to them and if they are your true friends, you will have them back soon.
Be open minded. If you are having as many problems with your home life as you say, you could be being ultra sensitive and feeling your friends are behaving a way that they may not be necessarily. They need to know what is going on and how you feel so you can all come together in this.
Best of luck.
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