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Parents devorcing
well see i have this problem and between parents they fight all the time and i want to know how to stop them from fighting ?? please tell me some advice
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They probably don't realize how it is affecting you. Talk to them. Tell them everything you feel and think about what is going on in your life and how their actions are making you feel. You have a right to express yourself and a right to all of your feelings. Talk to others also. Friends, trusted adults, teachers, counselors...ask your parents to take you to family therapy if you are not already going. Therapy can be free for kids through many community services and schools. Even the local police dept should be able to give you some phone numbers. You are important and need to be heard. This is not an uncommon occurance and is not anyone's fault...sometimes it just happens. Things will be tough, but they will get better. You will be okay. Talk and be open with your concerns. Bless you and your family.
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You can't stop your parents from fighting. Whatever they are fighting about is far beyond your means to resolve. Far beyond the means of anyone to resolve. In the end, the only people that can solve the marital problems that your parents are encountering... Are your parents.
Doesn't mean that you can't talk about your feelings though. If your parents are fighting in front of you don't be afraid to say something. Just make sure that what you are saying is about you, not them. For example you could say, 'I feel upset when the two of you fight. If you need to discuss your relationship, could you please do so in private?' You're stating how you feel and how this problem affects YOU and trying to compromise... Which is the only thing you can do in a relationship.
And if you're upset about your parents divorcing... You should tell them so. I don't mean trying to convince them to stay together... Or trying to help them resolve their problems. I mean discussing your feelings, thoughts, and worries pertaining to the matter. How this is affecting YOU. I'm sure your parents love you, and they probably know that this situation is very painful for you... They just might not know how to approach the subject with you. Whether this is the end of their marriage or not, the three of you need to learn to talk to each other.
And while I know that it's upsetting that your parents are divorcing... Try to keep in mind that all three of you might be happier once this over and the fighting is stop. I know it's really hard to remember that... My parents divorced when I was twenty and it was still a very painful experience for me even though I was an adult and knew that they would both be happier if they weren't married. But sometimes... Envisioning a future where everyone was at least a little happier, and I didn't have to listen to them scream at each other anymore... Sometimes it helped me get through it.
If you ever need to talk you know where to find me. You're in my thoughts and prayers... Best wishes ;)
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There's really nothing you can do. Most people who are getting divorced get into fights. Just sit down with both of them. And tell them how you feel about them fighting. And if they want to fight, tell them to fight when you're not around. Because you don't deserve being in the middle of all their fighting.
Hoped I Helped & Good Luck!
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