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I thought i would have gotten over him by now..
Ok so, I dated this great guy for about half a year but i messed it up by breaking a promise i made to him. I promised him that i would never drink and drive. but one night i had just a sip of vodka and drove home 2 hours later, i dont consider that drinking and driving, but he did and he broke up with me, the day before homecomming. I was miserable, i just couldnt forgive myself on how i messed up somthing so great. I truly did love him and im not just some stupid teenager who goes around saying that to everyone, i mean it. I even loved the bad things about him.
I tried fixing things a million times, but it just didnt work. Then i found out one of my good friends started talking to him on the phone a few days after we broke up and they liked eachother. that killed me so i called him later that night and yelled at him, because to me that is extreme disrespect. but now me and my friend fixed everything and we're friends again.
Now its 3 months since we broke up and im dating someone new. hes really sweet but i feel like i dont deserve him because i still find myself thinking of my ex, everyday. I just cant stand what a stupid mistake i made. This new guy says that he loves me but i cant say it back. i really like him but he just dosnt do the things that my ex did that made me feel so special. I know i should get over him and belive me i want to but i just cant do it. What i want to know is how long has it taken for some of you to get over an ex that you really loved and how do i get over it once and for all? I know im not being fair to my new boyfriend but i dont want to let him go because im afraid ill regret it, i just dont know what to do.
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it sounds li ke your ex used the drinking driving as an excuse to dump you, sorry but i mean , it sounds like it wasnt a big deal, also, mistakes happen and if he was so inlove with you like you are/were about him, he would have fortgotten this and let it pass and give you another chance ,its not like everyday you get drunk and drive, and also it can happen to anyone, its obbvious that he doesnt think the same way about you as you do aobut him, also its unfair to this new guy , so stop thinking about your ex cause its like he would have given you a second chance :S cause it wasnt a big deal, obviously he doesnt deserve you still think about him and blanme yourself for this mistake, this shows how much you meant to him and how important it is for you to stop feeling something for him that he doesnt feel for you and if he did he woiuld have show it by forgiving you you deserve to be happy with someone else that loves you back like you do :) giv ethis new guy a chance ..if still thinking about your ex..then stop dating the new guy cause he doesnt deserve this :)
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Forgive yourself.
The trick here is to realize this isn't so much about this great ex of yours (in fact, I humbly suggest that your ex might not be that great at all, but we'll get to that in a second) this is about you forgiving yourself for a past error.
To dump someone for a single mistake is the behavoir of someone who is either a tad controling and believes in 'punishing' thier partner, or someone who is looking for an excuse to break up. His demand that you not drink and drive, although totally a correct expectation, was taken to an extreem when he ended a relationship because of a single error of judgment.
With that in mind, forgive yourself, and the rest will follow: You'll begin to realize that the exes behavoir was in fact not perfect either and you'll be able to let go of him.
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