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sister issues
gender: F
age : 13
ok so i am a christian and i know that the Bible talks about how you should not be jealous... but i can't help it.
between me and my step-sister, dont get me wrong we get along most of the time, but she has so much more than me. She gets hollister, american eagle A&&F... you name it and she gets it when ever she wants... a HUGE walk in closet of it too.
when i have a coat rack (because my step mom has the walk in closet and my dad has my closet)... ( i am only at my dad's every other weekend)
back to the topic.... i dont have that much... its not that i dont mind it... its just that my step mom always tells me that me and my step-sister should get treated fairly. (but she gets so much more).
sometimes my step mom asks me what i think about living with them... but i dont really want to.... but my point is is that they think that they shouldn't buy me any other closes because that is what "child support is for"
HELP ME what should i do
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Part your problem can be fixed by understanding this little fact of life: Being treated 'fairly' is not the same as being treated 'the same'.
When your step-mother says (if she has ever said such an inappropraite thing as it) that clothing is what 'child support is for' what she is really saying is 'we are TRYING to be fair to you both, but we can't possibly treat you same, and there are some things that our out of our control.'
The best thing you can possibly do is talk to your step-mom and dad about this. You don't know what the arragments are with your mother, or all the details of it. You don't know about your mothers 'needs'. Although yes, child support could go towards name-brand clothing, your mother might have much more important needs that is must go towards first, like keeping a roof over your head.
If you are getting old enough to wonder about these things, you are getting old enough to ask your dad and your mom about the details of the arrangment. It's difficult for things to seem 'fair' if one parent has very differet curcimstances then another. It also might simply be that your mom doesn't believe in money being spent that way...
Whatever the case, it's time to start talking about it in a mature way. That means not making demands but asking a few questions, and listening very closes to all the answers.
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well, i would talk to your dad. tell him that you guys should be treated fairly and that you are feeling less important.
also, even if she has more clothes, try to look at the other things you have that she doesnt. like maybe friends.
because if you look at those things that you have, which she doesnt. it will make you feel better!
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I know what you're talking about. Everybody in my family loves my brother more! I hate it!
Anyways, back to you! It would be hard to talk to your step mom, or step sister. The easiest thing to do is to talk to your dad. They always understand, and if i talked to my dad he would say i'm imagining things. Show him, bring him into your rooms! It's the only way.
Good luck!!
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my sister is like that 2 shes the pretty one that gets to wear make up gets to have a boyfriend gets to shop wearever she wants gets whatever she wants when she wants it UUUUUUUUGGGGGGGG any way why dont you invite your friends over some times and then say hey mom can you drive us to the mall and then you guys stay with out her and you can buy whatever you want and christmas is 2 days away i hope you get what you want and if you think of it if you guys are maybe 2 or more years apart in age you get all her clothes when she grows out of them and stuff im really sorry you have to live like this i do 2 lets both pray for eachother tonight and lets pray for ower selfs 2 i hope i helped some and i wish you good luck and have a very merry christmas
Greta
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