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out of all the people why does this happen to me... please h
ok... so i'm 15... and my boyfriednd is 22... yeah.. big difference eh... but we have been together since i was 11... 4 years.... we have had our ups and downs... and always get fights fixed... but this time... what do i do? he thinks that i am backstabbing him... because i have a friendster account... but i never open it... but he claims that it says.. that i always open it.. everyday... i just get the feeling that hackers are doing this... and he thinks i am hiding it from him.. but i am not... and just today i was baptised to ba a catholic.... all this happened yesterday... i didnt get to email him yesterday because i was busy taking care of all the things for my baptism... and i got home at 6... but he thinks i am hiding things from him... but i am not... i tell him everything.. because we treat each other like we are merried.. we talk about our future and things like that.... and because he thinks that i was backstabbing him... he got so hurt.. that he chatted with someone else... you know in YM.. but i did not beleive him at first... but when i opened his account.. there she was.... her name was rachel... i didnt mean to.. but out of all the anger and hurt i felt i deleted his account.. because i dont want all my anger pouring on him... now we were supposed to chat... (because he just moved to the states this october to work for our future) he was gonna open his account (the one i deleted) but i emailed him about the deleting of it... so he emailed me that maybe his account was blocked or something... then he read my email and got mad... he said why did i do that??? and i shouldnt blame rachel because it was all my fault.. then he said.. you better bring back my account or i will never talk to you... basically.. i want to bring it back.. but... i cant.. and i love him.... i want him to know that.. and i just cant stand a day without him... i email him.. always.. almost every hour... begging for him to come back...i need him back.. i cant live.... if you are thinking of telling me... to just let him go.. there are a lot of guys in this world... no! i wont.. i love him... and my heart is a place for only him... please help me...
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Hun, you are in a controlling relationship. It is not healthy. He cheated on you because you have an account on a website that you dont even use, meanwhile he is makin you feel like garbage when you deleted his account that he wanted to keep to talk to that girl he cheated on you with. You did the right thing by deleting it. He needs a wake up call that he can't be the only partner in this relationship with any say. You say you guys have had your ups and downs. I bet the downs became ups when you would agree with his demands. If he can't do things you want him to do or the same things he asks from you, then he will continue to have the upper hand in the relationship and he will continue to control you. He makes it seem like everything is your fault and that you cant do anything right, you constantly need to prove your love for him, but you have already proven it. It is his turn. If he cant, then you need to get out of the relationship before this abuse turns physical if it hasnt already. You have been through so much. You don't deserve to be treated this way. Good luck and if you need anything else I'm here.
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I am going to break this down in sections.
#1 I won't even approach the age thing.
#2 If the friendster's account is causing that much problems, then just delete it, that is if you want to remain neutral with your boyfriend. The account shouldn't mean more to you than your boyfriend, since you said that you love him..
#3 you two need to sit down and have a conversation about trust and what the other wants from each other. Find a middle ground and compromise on helping each other out. I would like to point out that at 15, the relationship should be about exploring your emotional likes and dislikes, and where you want to go with your life. You don't have to be so serious at this young of an age, enjoy having the freedom of not being tied down to a person.
#4 I have been in your shoes about checking someone's YM. My husband was emailing a coworker in the middle of the night while I was in bed. He was hiding it from me. He was acting strangely too. This caused a big problem between him and I. I can't tell you all the details, because we would be here forever, but it all got worked out. I didn't delete his account, however, I did IM the girl and tell her that it was inappropriate to IM someone who is married. She has not IMed him since. So, I would suggest that you tell your boyfriend that you are sorry for deleting his account and you would set up a new one for him, if that's what he wants. However, let him know that threatening you about never seeing you again is childish and can be worked out in a better sense. If he comes back and tells you that you are childish for deleting it, then agree, because it was, but it was an act of jealousy and you will try and work on that.
I wish you the best. Good Luck!!!
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honestly if he's gonna not talk to you cause you deleted his friendster account, he's not a good boyfriend, or whatever you consider him. you guys obviously have trust issues and i suggest you work that out, but maybe tell him that you feel he doesn't trust you and that you wouldn't cheat on him or whatever and you just got a little jealous because you care about him so much.
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Make a new account for him. It's not your right to delete his account. Write him an email telling him everything about how you feel. You need to trust each other. Call each other for free using Skype.
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