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they cant get along
im 17/f. for a few weeks now ive been talkin to this guy. he likes me so hes always around me when he sees me. hes fun to hang out with but as of now were only friends, maybe FWB bc i just got outta a relationship and dont have feelings for him. my two really good/best friends cant stand him. which for one i think is really unfair bc they dont really know him. he can be very out there and wild-actin, and ill admit he can get annoying sometimes, but they act like they just hate him and are always giving me grief about it, saying things like "omg are you gonna go out with him?? how can you stand him, id kill him!" and just stuff like that. ive told them before that they dont even know him, that hes not always like that. ill admit after school when him, our other mutual friend and my two girl friends are all outside, he acts really crazy and can get irritating, but theyre really pushin it. theyre so judgemental. how am i supposed to handle this? its not that i care what they think about him.. its that they talk about it.. or him.. or me soo much and wont get off my back about it and its freaking annoying and makes me wanna slap em. any ideas ???
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Tell them you've heard thier message loud and clear and it's okay that they feel that way. They don't have to like him, but they do need to respect him and your choice to date him.
From that point forward, if they can't say anything nice, don't let them say anything at all. If they start on about how awful he is agian tell them firmly that you are aware of thier opinion but won't have this dicussion with them.
It's not your job to defend your boyfriend, so don't bother. Just tell them they have been heard and understood and it's time to keep thier comments to themselves.
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You just have to be blunt about it. Tell them outright to stop, they've made their opinions loud and clear, you don't want to hear it any longer.
If they don't stop, tell them if they respect you they will knock it off.
If they STILL don't stop, well, at least you know how much your friendship is respected.
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