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so depressed
i have been dating this guy for a while and i have serious feelings for him. lately we have been arguing a lot and a week ago i broke up with him because i was really upset. i didnt mean it and i told him but he wasnt sure if we should get back together. he told me to give him time to think and i told him not to make it long because it was hurting me and i wanted to know asap. well the next night he said he was really confused and wasnt sure and that there was another girl he liked and starting talking to. he told me he loves me and doesnt love her but wanted to see where things would go with them and wasnt happy how we were doing lately. we promised to do better and he would stop talking to her and we got back together. i know the girl and her brother so i know they havent been talking but this past week he hasnt been the same. he has been acting different, never calling me or asking to hang out (hes done it like three times this week), i dont ever know what he is doing or what he is up to. i dont ever see him that much anymore. im hurting really bad because i dont think he cares that much for me and the other night he sent me a long text message telling me he is so sorry about everything that he loves me and apologizes for not showing his love for me properly. tonight i called him because im so miserable and upset and asked him why he acts like he doesnt care about me and he just doesnt see it. he doesnt think he is doing anything wrong and just says that he just doesnt show his love the way i want him to. he used to i dont understand why he doesnt now. im so depressed because i love him more than anything and i want to stay with him but i feel so crushed because i want him to show me he cares. im not asking for him to call me and see me all the time, im just simply asking for him to show his love like he used to. what should i do? what should i do to help him realize how i feel and what should i do to help change the fact that he doesnt show it anymore..
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The longer you are with someone, the more the relationship changes. Sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse. As a general rule, things are never quite the same as they used to be.
Just because he doesn't show you how much he loves you in the same way as he used to, doesn't mean that he doesn't love you actually more than he used to.
Just because he doesn't show you he cares the same way he used to, doesn't mean that he doesn't care about you.
The problem is, it isn't worth fighting over. If it is that big of an issue, then the relationship is pretty much going nowhere.
ygs-29/f
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Tell him how you feel directly. Don't just hang around and wonder what to do. Just call him or tell him how you feel towards him. Tell him that this is really upsetting you and that you really want this realtionship to work. Now, one way to do that is to sit down with him and talk to him about what is concerning you can how the two of you can work around these issues.
Relationships aren't always perfect, there are many bumps in the road and many sharp corners which the couple must face together. If one breaks away, then the other can get lost and needs that person's company. This is just another one of those things which life throws at us and we must fight throw it, because soemthing worthwhile will be waiting fro you at the other end.
Don't take each other for granted, listen to each other and talk this out.
I hope this helps,
triquetra
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Well I'll tell you my opinion. He might not be acting the same because he might not feel the exact same as he did or how he is telling himself and yourself. I think you should talk to him about this. My friend had the exact same problem recently so I think talking to him and see whats going on. And if he won't change that then he might not be Mr. Perfect. Of course my friend and her boyfriend didn't work out but he said he was giving her space, but she felt like she was being ignored. So he might not realize what he is doing. So talk to him about it and if he just doesn't care then he isn't worth it. And sometimes you want that certain person to like you but it just doesn't go the way we want it to. But I hope everything works out for you!
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