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is it possible to be in love with some1 and not be attracted
ok so i met this guy online and we got on really well so we decided to meet up. we had been alkin about a year and we met up 3 months ago. problem is, when we met i was just not attracted to him. we are still really good friends and we have spoken every day since we met up and i meet up with him every weekend.
i have really strong feelings for him and i think i might be in love with him...but again, im not attracted to him at all.
is that possible?
He said to me tonight that he thinks we should cool it for a while and not talk because he's afraid that he might like me more down the line, which would do neither of us any good because it isnt gonna go anywhere. i dont know if he was just saying that to see what id say or if he actually meant it.
i dont wanna lose him but i dont think i will be able to not talk to him whenever i want to. i know that he has strong feelings for me too but i think that he IS attracted to me!
what do i do???
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I think it is 100% possible. Being attracted to someone in my eyes is a just a bonus. There is so much more to a relationship than being attracted to someone - the person you are can make you attractive. If you have a great personality then your way more attractive than someone with great looks and physique. I think you should take it slowly until u know exactly what your feelings are just so you and ? don't get hurt. I myself was in this same situation, i was set up with a man and before we met we txt and spoke all the time n even before we met i knew i was falling for him. When we met i wasn attracted to him in the slightest but we got on so well so i stuck at it. We were friends at first like yourself and ? and the more time i spent with him the more attractive he became. If you cant imagine not speaking to him whenever you want then there is definately something there.
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Love is very powerful and yes, attraction that is only physical is nothing compared to the attraction you feel for someone's whole being...you can be drawn to people for many different reasons. However, it is difficult to estimate at this stage of the game, the importance of chemistry and physical attraction. He is wise to slow things down anyway...even if you were head over heels in lust with him, it would be best not to jump into anything. Keep being honest with him and yourself about your feelings. You may find yourself more or less attracted to someone as you get to know them over time....some gorgeous guys end up looking more like creepy spiders after you get to know them. Don't overanalyze it...just follow your heart. You are not a bad person for not finding him attractive on the outside...it is a human thing.
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Of course it is possible. This is what I think about it: Who a person is on the inside is their most attractive, or unattractive, feature. The more you find a person attractive on the inside, the less you see their flaws on the outside.
If you really love this guy, and he feels the same, don't let him go like that. It doesn't really matter if he was saying that to test you. Chances are, he wasn't.
Guys aren't as complex and apt to beat around the bush like we of the female variety. He was most likely telling you how he feels.
If you don't want to stop talking to him, tell him so. Tell him why. If you really love this guy, you should feel comfortable discussing the issue of whether or not taking a break from talking to one another is for the best.
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Umm in my opinion i think it is possible to fall in love with someone and not be attracted to them. This is so because you're falling in love for who he is and not what he looks like which is good. Many people make the mistake of falling for a person's look and not for who that person is, and usually it would end up being a mistake. But that what i would have to say on it. That the way i have fallen in love by who the person is and i dont care so much about looks. A person can look good but be a horrible person. But try taking things one step at a time and dont assume you love him. You should try hanging out with him more, and really think about what love is to you and if he fits your discription. But you should also consider going out with the person, which would make things more inerestting and would give you a better idea of how the person is as a BF.
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