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she says i need to change, i dont know how
[ first off, you should know, im bi ]
my girlfriend tells me i need to change because im really protective. i dont trust her around other girls and guys. i want to change but i dont know how. how do you change yourself. i know i shudnt be changing for someone else but i REALLY love her and i wanna change for her. helpp
any sites on changing for a relationship wud help too . thanks soo much
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She wants you to change your attitude not your personality. She wants you to approach the relationship from a fresh perspective and trust her. She hasn't given you any solid reason not to trust her totally.
People regardless of being in a relationship or not are sometimes flirts by nature. This doesn't mean she's going to hook up with either of them. Trust me, if she wanted to hook up with other girls/guys she would have already and would be long gone.
She only WANTS you and it's evident. You need to trust her until she has given you a clear reason not to. You need to see it from her perspective as it would piss anyone off to have someone jealous and constantly questioning their loyalty.
How would you feel if she was like that to you? I gather you have been hurt before in other relationships by a cheater. You need to address your fears about this or you'll lose her.
Talk things out with her and explain what your fear is. You'll both address it and have this behind you hopefully. She loves your personality but despises your fearfulness and jealous take on the relationship.
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Well, you don't change who you are for anyone, but there is nothing wrong with changing how you treat people.
Being jealous and protective is flattering to a degree, but not if you are overboard about it. Then it can be hurtful and even insulting.
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