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dont know what to do about a friend
im a junior in high school and this girl is a freshmen, we became really really close in like 3-4 months, we called each other best friends. we were OBSESSED with each other but now for the past like month we can't go two days without fighting. everything we say to each other is taken offensively and everything is a competition. we get mad at each other for everything and nothing works out. i havent fought with anyone in years before her, and now sometimes i just like hate life. she makes me absolutely miserable sometimes and we've both said some pretty hurtful things to each other. we've taken space.. but it doesn't do anything, we always just make up but a day later we fight again. basically what i'm asking is how do you know if you're supposed to just let her go or keep working on the friendship? eeven with everything i said before i can't imagine my life without her.. even when we're fighting i'm constantly checking her away message or facebook or whatever.. i jus can't imagine not being friends but i can't go on the way we are.. any help woould be great thank you
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that's definetly a tough situation, but everyone has to deal with them from time to time. from what your question is stating, it's like a love/hate relationship. you cant live with your friend, you cant live without her. i would say to think about the subjects that you argue over, are they trivial or based on your morals and whatnot? arguing a lot with a person obviously means that you have a lot of differences, and usually that's fine, but if this friendship is affecting your life, i would say it's unhealthy. you need to really sit down and think if it's worth it or not, and make a type of pros and cons list to figure it out. i understand how hard it is to detach yourself from a relationship that had grown close, but you have to think of yourself and your life.
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I think that you answered your own question basically. If she makes you miserable, she isn't a true friend. Yes, people fight, but if its to the point where your life is becoming more complicated, it isn't worth it. Talk to her about it & explain your feelings about the situation. If you tried multiple times & it still doesn't work out, I think that's a good indication that you should move on from being friends or try one last time & if it doesn't work then let it go.
-hope that helped!♥
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