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An update
So this is kind of a followup on the previous long ass question I left you.
So, we're talking. She admitted today that she still loves me. She said though that when she talks to me that she cant feel hardly anything. I think thats just her natural defenses closing her off to keep her from being hurt somehow.
I dont, however, know how to break through that. Time and attention, maybe? Thats question 1 I guess. Is there anything I can do to work on her emotional defense, suggestions or anything?
So, where we're at, is that she still very much loves me. She agrees that our connection is worth saving. Shes ready to admit to herself that on some level she wants me back, but we agree it has to be a gradual process.
I told her that I was considering moving to where she is now. I have no idea where thats going to go.
I'm not giving up. I'm going to try to make this work. I guess, what we're facing is a protracted "friends" period and then probably getting back together.
Shes still going to sleep with her current fuckbuddy. I think I'm going to continue with mine. We're sexual people and pretty open in that regard so outside some levels of jealousy that I can deal with, I dont think that I'm going to have an issue with that.
Its just hard, knowing that shes in someone elses bed without me. Especially knowing she has feelings for him and she isnt ready to walk away from those feelings yet.
Thats pretty much an update. If youve got any more suggestions or wise words, I'd love to hear them.
Thanks.
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
I'm kind of worried about her not giving up the
other guy. But then he is there and you aren't.
That could change if you move to where she is.
If you want a chance I think you will have to move
closer to her. Get a job, take it slow. It will
show her you are serious about making it work with her. Right now she may have a "ya right" thing going on. :)
Of course you will be jealous of the other guy. Who
wouldn't be. Just concentrate on getting where she is and winning her back. I look forward to hearing
when it happens for you!
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