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Oh boy, life sure is funny, huh?
When I finally think I'm over this a**hole (who used me..) life puts a spin on things.
You see I was so excited that I finally liked someone new, that I was getting this loser out of my head, that I decided to introduce him to my friends (I didnt tell them I liked him, just that we were friends) and the first thing they say? "Wow he's exactly like Richard, they could be twins!!" (Richard, of course, being the A**hole!) ha ha ha ha - funny, right?! >.<
And I take a second look, and its true. They look a like, act a like, have the same intersts, same attitude towards woman (plaaaayers!) same EVERYTHING!
Now what do I do about this? Keep going around falling for Richards all the time?
I'd rather not.
But for some reason the only guy I'm attracted to these days (Ive tried to be attracted to others) are exactly like him. And its not that he's my typ or anything.. when i first went out with him I often had to convince myself because I wasnt attracted to him.. not my sense of humor, not my type of looks.. but now.. after him.. my type seems to have changed (to liking complete jerks)
WHAT DO I DO PEOPLE? IM GOING NUTS!
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Your father is either a) dead b) not in the picture c) divorced from your mother d) a cheater or e) an asshole.
Go after guys you're not as passionately interested in.
EDIT:
When someone is in a distressing or traumatic situation when they're younger or have bad influences and bad people around them, that's the exact thing that people are attracted to when they become older. So those people that you're very interested in now that you're older will nearly always have these characteristics that you grew up with, which is obviously not a good thing. The extreme of this is with abuse. Those that are abused before that portion of their brains are finished forming (before 14ish) will continue that cycle of abuse. I'd be willing to bet that 90+ percent of today's abusers received the same treatment when they were younger.
I'm not saying go after people you're not interested in, just go after people you're not as excited and extremely interested in.
Hey, God needs some amusement. :)
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ha.. you sound like me. let me guess you like a challange? thats why your attracted to guys like him becasue all of the otherones are just to easy to get it takes the fun out of the "does he like me, was he just flirting with me??" game. but you know might as well keep talking to him, who cares.. your friends will get over it, they will still be your friends... but i would just be carefull with him, play him just as much as he's playing you.. you would be surprised how much fun it can be (i'm not saying by anymeans play random guys) i'm just saying its fun to play with a player :)... like make him be the one to call you and you be the one to end the call, flirt like crazy, but just have fun! don't let yourself really fall for him though, becasue he will then play you and you will be refering him as an a**hole too... except one thing you might want to consider is that even though he has the same interests, looks, blah blah, as the last guy, he might not have the same lack of respect towards girls hes attracted to as the last one.
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What do you want?
Most of the time in life, we get what we go out looking for. Are you looking for a good time with a charming scoundrel? Are you looking for a player you can 'reform'? Do you have something to prove to these guys?
Not all guys who seem to be same on the surface will be the same in end. They will act differently depending on how you behave as well. The same old pattern will give you the same result.
Different people and different patterns might come up with something new.
All you really need to have a grasp on is what you want. If you don't want to date a player, don't. If you see something in this new guy that sets off a warning bell in your brain, stay away.
There is no greater trick to it then that. Live and learn and give people a chance (but not nessicarily a second chance).
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