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Dating and Relationships
I am 19 and a college student. Most of the people I knew and still know from high school dated a fair amount. I sort of feel as though I should be dating at my age or at least went on a couple of dates, but I have never dated before. Do you think you could give me some advice on how to start dating and getting girls to like me for who I am and want to be with me? Like I said I don't know a thing about how to date. I do know how to treat women though. Thanks for the help. What do guys look for in girls and what do girls look for in guys?
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Hi there. It sounds like you feel as if you should have had a date because your friends did, but please don't feel that way. You should not feel any pressure to do what your friends do. This is inadvertent peer pressure. They're not putting pressure on you, but you feel like you must do what they do.
Now, how to get girls to like you? You can't. You can't make anyone have feelings for you, that is deceiving them. All you have to do, is be yourself. Anyone who is worth having will like you for you. But please don't feel disheartened if you get turned down a few times. We all get rejected, and we can't expect everyone to like us.
When it comes to dating, it's not really a big thing over here in the UK. But I would imagine it would involve a nice meal, a movie, a theatre show, things like that. I don't think it matters what you do, as long as you treat the lady with respect. But saying that, not all women will like the same things. I don't always like going out for a meal, sometimes I'd rather just stay home. Flowers can do the trick a lot of times too, as well as chocolate, but this doesn't work for all women either. The best date can be something you both enjoy doing. Some people like to go on dates to concerts. Others prefer the old fashioned way.
As for what guys look for in girls and what girl look for in guys, that can differ depending on the person. You need to ask yourself what you look for in a girl. Looks, personality, can she make you laugh etc. I know I like a guy who is trustworthy, funny, understanding (which is a must with me lol). But different women like different things. Like I said, be yourself, and you will find someone you want to go on a date with.
However, I do get the impression that you're lacking in confidence. Perhaps you're afraid of asking a girl you like on a date in case she says no. Please don't feel that way. As I said, we have to suffer rejection at times, but don't take that rejection to heart. Use it in a positive way to start a life with someone.
You will find someone, I promise you that. I truly believe there is someone out there for everyone. But you really do have to go through some heartbreak in order to really appreciate it when you find true love.
I hope everything works out for you and I hope my advice has helped you some.
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