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Love life is completely messed up at the moment.
14/f
Okay, I liked this guy, let's call him G, for months and months, I really did love him, but he had a girlfriend. However, I always felt like we had a connection. Then, around three months ago, him and his girlfriend split up. Me and G got together about 2 and a half months ago. I was happy at first but... it just doesn't seem to be working. I can honestly say that I don't love him in that way anymore. I love him as a friend, but not romantically. It's got to the point where I feel as if we hardly speak anymore, but he told one of mine and his friends that he's in love with me.
I don't want to break up with him, because I feel really confused at the moment, and I'm the type of person that always wants what they can't havee. What if I broke up with him and then realised that wasn't what I wanted?
So I've decided to try and make it work, but so far it isn't going very well.
At the same time as this, one of my best friends, let's call her D, was dating a guy named R, who is one of our friends.
I'd always liked R a little bit, but I never thought anything of it because he was my best friend's boyfriend and I'm not single.
D had been unhappy in the relationship for a long time, she wanted to be single and was finding R a little too self-centered. So she started hanging out with him less, and last week R broke up with her. At the time she was happy because she had wanted the relationship to end, but just didn't know how to break up with him.
When D and R were going out, R had told some people he liked someone he shouldn't, and towards the end of their relationship, me and R started talking more.
The day after, I found out, due to a few close friends who speak with R, that R had told them he likes me.
Since they broke up, me and R have been speaking every night, hanging out more and flirting a bit at school. We've got a lot closer.
And I keep having second thoughts about G, because although I wanted it to work, it quite obviously isn't, and now R's in the picture...it's making me realise what I'm missing by staying with G.
However, R is my best friend's ex boyfriend, and recently she's been telling me that she's messed it up with him, she misses him and didn't realise how lucky she was until they broke up. She keeps mentioning certain people that have dated best friends and saying it's stupid, and I can't very well date her ex-boyfriend after she's told me she still has feelings for him and she misses him!
The problem is, every day, things seem to be getting worse between me and G, and better between me and R. I feel like me and R click so well, and I love being with him and talking to him. But at the same time, I'm scared of letting go of G, and I don't want to hurt him.
As far as I know, D doesn't know R likes me, and she doesn't know I like R.
I just don't know what to do.
What do you think I should do about G?
And what about R?
What if R is just a rebound?
And how could be me and R ever be together when him and D used to be an item?
Thanks for any help, I'm so confused at the moment.
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About G...i think that you fall in and out of love easily. And it isnt fair to you or him if both of you are not totally comitted. And if you do break up with him and regret later, it will be okay, you will just learn. You will make mistakes, everyone does. If i was you and i knew for sure that i didnt want to be with G then i would call it off immeadiately.
About R...okay R dated your best friend D. Let me say something real quick ok. I have been on the other side. My best friend likes my all time man. Im not dating him but still with her liking him it hurts-really bad. So if she is like me, with her just liking him it hurts me, so how would she feel if you like dated him?? Just saying if it was me i wouldnt do it. Plus he could just be on the rebound?? like wanting to make her jealous or thinking he likes you but he really dont.
Im not trying to like shoot down everything, im just giving my point of view.
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Al-RIGHTY then. I'm thinking you're having some ISSUES? Let's see what the Great Letitia can do:
So R likes you, you like R but you're going out with G but you don't like him anymore, and R is your friend's ex, but she's thinking she might like him again? Oh, the drama. I kind of had the same problem when I was dating my ex. He said he loved me and I thought I did and then I realized I didn't love him, and possibly never did. Anyway, I broke up with him and he was heartbroken and stuff, but I realized it was the right thing to do. By staying in that relationship, I would only hurt him more.
If you KNOW you don't love G, I think you should end it. You'll feel horrible for hurting him so much and he'll be so sad, but you'll get over it. NOT in a mean way, just you'll figure out that that's how it has to be. AFTER that, then you can decide what to do about this R guy. See if D still likes him and how much she does. If she's a really good friend, ask her how she'd feel if you ever dated R. If she's not that close of a friend, things might get awkward between you two if you ask her that. But first things first, work things out with G. Then go on.
;) I like a guy who's name starts with R too.
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