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A lost friend...
So there's this guy. From grade five up until grade eight we had always been really close friends. Actually he always liked me more than a friend and he told me that. I never liked him back though. However, at the end of grade eight he stopped talking to me completely. Rumor was that he stopped talking b/c I was too obsessed over this guy I liked and I talked too much about him. That just doesn't seem like what he would get mad over though. He never has before, so I doubt he would this time. I've tried talking to him online,on the phone, at school, just about everywhere... but it's like he never knew me. However he knows me better than anyone I've ever met. It's been 7 months now and things just keep getting worse and worse. It's like I don't exist to him, he honestly doesn't notice me at all ever. I miss having him as a friend so much, he was the only one I ever really trusted and he kept me happy. To make it even worse, I have this small crush on him that keeps growing by the day... I don't know what to do or how to solve this. I have no clue whatsoever why he's mad. No one does. Some good advice would be great. Thx so much!
xox~Becky
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Well once I had this friend who I liked and told him that I have feelings towards him but he never said it back or anything, same situation but the thing is I always had hope that one day he is going to like me until I came to my sense and understood that he will never like me so I got really pissed and decided that distances is going to make me forget him so I stopped talking to him, but he tried every kind of connection to talk to me, but i refused because i was kind of mad at him and myself.
So he gave up and gave me space, and I start thinking about it, I'm strong enough to stop liking him and I felt sorry for him that I suddenly stopped talking to him.
So give him space and confront him face to face, tell him about this little crush you have, be honest about your feelings and how confused you are. Get his address and give him a visit, trust me that's exactly what he needs and want.
Good Luck =]=]
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well i think your crush on him might only be growing because you cant have him right now. i dont know why, but thats just how everyones mind works.
but thats not the problem here. if i were you, i would write a message on facebook/myspace/aim something like that... that way you can really think out about what you want to say to him. ask him at the end to please reply or call you because you really want to resolve everything.
really, just be honest with him and if he wont forgive you, then hes really missing out
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Hey there,
Okay in my opinion i think the reason this guy has suddenly decided to cut you off from his life like this is because it got too much.
like you said he has feelings for you it must have been incredably hard for him to be around you as a friend everday and wish for something more.
I think maybe he just couldnt take it and decided he needed some space and distance from you until he gets over you and can stand the fact of just being your friend. which is understandable but in this case,its been 7months and hes still treating you like you don't exsist and he never gave you an explanation unfair on his part.
after being his friend for so long the least you deserved was an explanation so you could give him that space.
you say youve tried just about everything to talk to him now what i would do is try one more time to tell him exactly how you feel including the small crush,(quick question are you 100% sure you could never have feelings for him like he has for you,if so then leave the crush part out)
maybe write him a letter anything and everything just one last time.
if he chooses not to listen well then thats is problem and i hate saying it but after that theres really nothing else you can do,but leave him to think about it and hope he realises what hes throwing away and comes around.
if he still chooses to not want to know you hes incredably stupid for throwing away a great friendship like that. and youl just have to do your best to move on as hard as that is.
no friend should put another through that though,honestly if nothing changes at least you know that you did your absolute best dont waste anymore time,its not worth it its up to him then.
anyway i hope i helped somehow and that things work out and he comes around :) anymore questions please inbox me =)
much <3
Jess
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