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Um, I shouldn't be bothered, should i?
Okay, so here's the deal: I have a boyfriend and one of my friends has a crush on him. I haven't been friends with this girl very long either.
Okay- she was flirting with him a lot...and it was bugging me. So i talked to her about it. The first time she was all like "oh, sorry.okay" She didn't stop. So i talked to her AGAIN! and she said "oh my god! i's so sorry! I hate it when friends think that! Okay, I'll stop. It will be hard, but I'll try." << Okay...WHAT!? it will be hard but i'll try? But i let it go. Now today, she was tickling him. I don't know why this bugs me so much because well, i know it doesn't mean anything really. I've talked to my boyfriend about it and stuff and he said he would never do anything to hurt me. And i know he meant it because when i was bummed out about her flirting and stuff...he was upset. He blamed himself for the pain i felt. I told him not to, but he did anyway. But ANYWHO that part was solved...at least i thought so. well, she's tickling him now. Should i really be bothered by this? I don't really want to say anything more to my 'friend' because i'll sound like she cant be friends with him because he's my boyfriend. I don't want to be the girl who wont let her boyfriend have other girls as friends. Another thing, a group of students are going to quebec next semester, and this girl threatened my boyfriend that she would tickle him the whole way there. I don't know what to do anymore. I realize that this girl flirts and stuff with everyone's boyfriend and all kinds of guys, but could she at least...i don't know, stop? I realize that people can't just stop suddenly, but if she made a better effort than maybe i wouldn't be so bothered. So, what should I do about this?
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i know how you feel. me and my boyfriend are totally in love with each other and a few of my friends do little things that bother me but i know they shouldnt, and my boyfriend tells me hes never going to leave me so i try not to worry about it. the thing is, she knows shes doing it, since she said "it'll be hard, but ill try." and since you have already talked to your boyfriend and her, so thats good. heres what i would do, tell your boyfriend to say something to her. im sure he gets annoyed if she tickles him all the time? tell him to tell her to stop in a stern way or something so she gets the message that shes annoying and he doesnt like her flirting without saying it in a direct way. you could talk to her again also, and say "you havent stopped." but you shouldnt worry too much about this though, your boyfriend knows how you feel about this situation, and he knows that shes just flirting with him. i really think the best thing to do now would be to tell your boyfriend to say something to her because if it comes from him, she might back off.
hope this helps. if its still going on after this message me
hope everything works out for youxxx
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Thankyou for your question.
It's normal for you to get rather annoyed with your friend for doing this. I think everyone would to be honest. She may just be a very flirty person - some girls are like it and don't realize they are hurting the people around them. I reckon that's what she meant by saying "It will be hard, but I'll try"
I really doubt she is trying to cause any harm, especially since she knows you are on to her.. and you can practically see her doing these things.
I don't think you should worry. Your boyfriend has told you he wouldn't do anything to hurt you, so you should believe him. Although, if he knows how uncomfortable etc this is making you, he should make a bit of effort to tell the girl to back off a little, too. Or at least tell her not to tickle him and get so close. Have a few words to see if there's anything he can do to help the situation.
There is another thing you could try, too. Act like it's not bothering you at all. Who knows, your friend might be trying to make you jealous. So if you show no sign of it getting to you, she may realize and stop.
Probably within time, she will soon get the message. Or you could even help to find her a boyfriend of her own.
Whatever the reason for her constant flirting, don't let it turn things bad with your relationship.
I hope things turn out fine.
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hmm, well the first thing that you need to understand which i think your starting to get is, this girl just flirts without meaning anything by flirting. She seems like she just likes to have fun with guys and quite often we flirt with people we don't even like in any advanced relationship or sexual kind of way. I do it too, i flirt with guys i have no interest in other than friends. Your boyfriend seems very understanding and thats great. If he knows it bothers you and you don't want to seem like the jealous girlfriend ask him if he could maybe tell her not to touch him, its ok if she wants to talk and play around like that but touching is strictly for the girlfriend. If it came from him i think she'd get it. What she meant by it will be hard but i'll try is that she does this without realizing its really even considered flirting and its fun to her and probably a habit. Try talking to your boyfriend to ask her not to touch him. If that doesn't work let me know and i'll prescribe something else. Hope all works out. Good luck.
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